Walking me down the aisle

It's not your mom's decision. Set your boundaries and tell her you have already decided on your dad.

I’m sorry to hear that you are getting pressure from your mom, but just because your dad is walking you down the aisle doesn’t mean you don’t care about your step-dad 🌼 sorry mom but it’s the bride’s decision ❤️

I personally would only have my dad walk me down the aisle. But do whatever is best for YOU not your mom because it's your wedding.

You get to decide who walks you down the aisle! Do whatever you feel most comfortable with, and don't worry about how anyone else will feel about it. If you decide to have your dad be the only one to walk you down the aisle, but you still want to honor your step dad in some way, you could do two father-daughter dances (one with each)?

Could you maybe work something out with the photographer to capture a "first look" between step dad and yourself. A small intimate moment that lets him know he is loved and appreciated. I am doing one with my brother. I don't have anyone walking me down the aisle as all my parents have passed.

For example:

Before you meet your father to be walked, the photographer grabs your stepdad letting him know you would like to see him for a moment. You could be standing on the other side of a door far from eyes. When he comes in his reaction to seeing you could be a beautifully captured candid, and while the photographer is doing his/her thing you tell him how wonderful he is and how happy you are to have him in your lives. He gets a little piece of "father of the bride", your mom will feel that he was included in a special way and nothing is taken away from your dad.

Just a suggestion. If I had not lost both my dad's, I would be in a similar pickle. I know it would have been a delicate situation. Congratulations and best wishes -

You’re mom is overstepping her boundaries. This is your wedding, not her’s.

Its your choice. Personally, I believe the person or persons who raised you should walk you down the aisle.

One cute thing you could do to incorporate him is to simply pause at the end of the aisle as you walk down with your dad, to give your step dad a kiss and a hug. It’s brief but special and sweet and a lovely photo moment as well. ❤️


I had this problem because honestly my mom wanted to walk me down the aisle as well as my dad! Like flanking me lol. I had to figure out how to tell her I just imagined having my dad do it. They’re still married and I’m super close with my mom but it’s just not how I pictured coming down the aisle. So I’m going to stop at the end to give her a kiss and a hug so she gets a “moment” too! 🥰❤️

Compromise in a way? Let step-dad walk you part way, but let dad do the "official" giving away at the end.

My cousin was in this same position, and she had her dad walk her down the aisle, then did the father/daughter dance with her stepdad, so she could incorporate them both.


But I agree that you should do want you want