Walking down the aisle?

I'm sorry your dad put you through that and still continues to do so. He doesn't deserve to walk you down the aisle. You should ask your mom to walk you instead, unless you'd rather walk alone.

I have the same relationship with my father. Very mentally abusive growing up, sees no fault of his own. He was invited to both of my weddings (10 years ago - ended in divorce, and in September) and he didn't walk me down either time. And he didn't ask. My mom walked me the first time and I walked myself the second. He was invited because we have a civil relationship and I didn't want to get grief from my grandmother. It's your wedding - you do what is best for you.

These days it is not assumed that the father will walk the bride down the aisle. Some brides choose to walk alone or with someone else in their life. I don't think you need to make a huge deal out of it, but if you want him to walk you, you should make the ask. If you don't want him to walk you, then find another option and let him know that.

I personally wouldn't want someone like that involved in my wedding in any way other than guest (maybe)...so I would either ask mom or go alone.

Are him and your mom civil with each other? You could have both of them, otherwise i was going to suggest just having your mom as well

I wouldn't let him walk you down at all. Have your mom do it! She was the better parent and deserves that honor, not him. Good luck!

We're doing the same thing - we're having a first look and then we're walking down together.

Erica, I think you first have to decide if you even want your dad to walk you down the aisle. It doesn't sound like he's been a great support to you, and may even trigger negative feelings on your special day. Just because he wants to doesn't entitle him to it.

If you decide you do want him to walk you, prepare yourself for more drama from him, just in case. And remember: just because you've made a decision doesn't mean you can't change your mind later.

My dad wasn't abusive to me, but he wasn't always around. He'd make simple promises like picking us up, and he would usually flop. I'm OKAY with him now, and he's thrilled he has 2 granddaughters. However, I could never have him walk me down the aisle. It just doesn't make sense. "Giving me away" would be a ridiculous notion in my situation, because he wasn't really there for me to give me away. I want to walk down the aisle alone in the arms of my fiance. It's not to get back at my dad or anything, it just makes me so uncomfortable to even think about him walking me down the aisle. Don't feel obligated or make anyone bully you into making him walk you down the aisle. You should walk with your mom if you have a great relationship or another loved one, or just alone. All the best

I would just have your mom do it. Giving a bride away is an honor and should be done by someone you feel has supported you. It doesn't sound like he deserves that honor.

To me it doesn't sound like he should be walking you down the aisle at all, asked or not. My parents are divorced, and it ended horribly and my dad said some horrible stuff to me. I have also been in therapy since then and I haven't spoken to him because his condition is that I have to accept his new wife (the woman he cheated on my mom with) or no deal. I refuse to have someone like that in my life, so I asked my uncle/godfather to walk me down the aisle. He said yes. So my advice would be to find someone else. But in general, yes, its understand that a father walks their daughter down the aisle.

Agreed. Im not even inviting my dad, we don’t have a great relationship and I know he wouldn’t even go. He didn’t go to my sister’s, even though she offered to pay for his plane ticket and hotel. My mom is walking me down, she’s always been the one there for me, so that’s how it should be. Do not feel obligated whatsoever. Let him feel entitled as a GUEST. He is lucky you’ve even extended that much to him. If he mentions it again, just let him know you’ve made other arrangements but are glad he can attend as a guest.