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Walking down the aisle

Stephanie, on September 13, 2019 at 10:00 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 22

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Hello ladies, this topic gets me a little sad but it needs to be done. i NEED opinions! My real dad wasnt really there for me while growing up, maybe came to a game or two but when he got married his wife decided he needed to start seeing me ( a week before turning 13). now i am 27 years old and only see or hear from him when he is drunk ( alcoholic) or wanting to come and see me. Which now he has a grandson he barley sees. when growing up it seemed like he used me for a trophy to his new women. My step dad has been there since i was 13 years old. him and my mom has been through alot but hes always right back at home. he has been there for me NO MATTER WHAT even if they wasnt together. Growing up he has came to every game, concert. im like a daughter to him. he attends my sons birthday partys ( just turned 2 on aug 26 which my real dad wasnt). But anyways this is a very hard subject for me. i dont know who i want to walk me down the aisle. i wanted both my real dad to ask my step dad to walk with us but my heart weights down on weather to let my real dad sit in the chair and let him see that growing up and going in and out of my life isnt fair just like someone walking his daughter down the aisle isnt. HELP!!

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Latest activity by Laura, on September 15, 2019 at 11:02 AM

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Lily · on September 13, 2019 at 10:09 PM
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How about your mom walks you down? She's always been there for you.
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Stephanie · on September 13, 2019 at 10:13 PM
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I always thought about that but I want her to watch me walk down the aisle.
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Izzykern · on September 13, 2019 at 10:24 PM
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I am kind of in the same situation but my real father has been there somewhat. He does not try to hurt me but never takes initiative to see me ever... I was thinking of walking myself down the aisle actually. I have been very independent and responsible since I was 16 so I feel comfortable walking alone down the aisle! However, I am still open to the idea of him walking me down the aisle... whatever you feel the most comfortable with! That’s how I feel at least
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Destiny · on September 13, 2019 at 10:24 PM
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Im walking down my self. I thought about hashing my fh meet me half way down the aisle but fhs mom doesn't want that
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Laura · on September 13, 2019 at 10:25 PM
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In your situation, I’d have my stepdad walk me. It really sounds like your bio father hasn’t earned it.
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Cara · on September 13, 2019 at 10:25 PM
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Personally, I don’t think your wedding day is the day to be sending a spiteful message. I get where you’re coming from though, feeling very much on the fence about walking down the aisle by myself or with my dad.

But I wouldn’t let wanting him to see how much he’s let you down be the reasoning. I think you should definitely have a heart-to-heart with him about your relationship whatever you choose. If you have him walk with you, let him know it was a tough decision. Talk it through.
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Stephanie · on September 13, 2019 at 10:32 PM
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Thank yall ladies. Very true cara. Ima have a one on one chat with him and if nothing changes I will be walking down with my stepdad
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Kayla · on September 13, 2019 at 10:44 PM
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I would have my step dad do it or noone. I have a dad but we dont get along and he isnt active in my life so he will be invited but I'm walking down solo.
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Aleaj · on September 13, 2019 at 10:50 PM
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I had this same problem, but the other way around. I was always close with my real dar, and just became close with my step dad in the last 2yrs (even though i lived with him & my mom). Anyways he asked if he could walk me down the aisle with my dad, i told him yes, but later regretted it bcuz i feel like my dad who has always been there shouldn’t have to share this special moment. You really have to go with your heart, whatever you do don’t be like me & make an important decision too fast, and later regret it. If i were you, I’d choose my step dad since he’s always been there, but again it is totally up to you. Good luck doll!
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Aleaj · on September 13, 2019 at 10:52 PM
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You’re absolutely right, your wedding day shouldn’t be a day to be spiteful...love this!
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Renee · on September 13, 2019 at 11:16 PM
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If I was in this situation, I'd have the stepdad do it. You said he was there for you even when he wasn't with your mom. That's pretty big. He sounds like a major part of you, and your child's, life. He sounds like the real dad who deserves to do it
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on September 14, 2019 at 1:38 AM
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What about asking your stepdad to walk you down the aisle and asking your birth dad if he would like to do the father-daughter dance with you? That way, they each get their own special tradition with you but the dance may be more comfortable for you then having your dad walk you down the aisle.

Also, if you feel your dad might flip over just your stepdad walking you, you can have ask your stepdad and mom to walk you. Harder to breakup that unit. 😊
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Jillian · on September 14, 2019 at 2:13 AM
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I'm walking by myself..... Or I might walk with one of my kids....
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Kristin · on September 14, 2019 at 2:22 AM
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Do you think your real dad is reliable enough to be there for you on your big day? I’d maybe ask both since you’re torn and I’m sure your stepdad wouldn’t have an issue and then that way if for whatever reason your real father isn’t there, you still have your step dad. The day is about you and love and happiness and that’s added stress you don’t want to worry about. He’ll either be there or he won’t.
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Elizabeth · on September 14, 2019 at 2:27 AM
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I’m in a similar situation. I’ve decided to have my mom and my step dad walk me down the aisle. Hope this helps ❤️
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Mrs. Bubba · on September 14, 2019 at 4:20 AM
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Your Step-Dad should be the one to do it.

He’s earned it.

Congratulations and 🍀‼️
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Mrs. Bubba · on September 14, 2019 at 4:23 AM
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What does it matter what FH’s Mom wants?
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Stephanie · on September 14, 2019 at 10:09 AM
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What? I didn't say anything about fh mom
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Mrs. Bubba · on September 14, 2019 at 10:16 AM
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That response wasn’t to you.
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Misty · on September 14, 2019 at 10:37 AM
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I truly believe the people walking you down and standing up with you are the people you truly truly believe will be there for you in the future and those that have helped you get to this place. If that is your step dad... then ask him. No matter what. Even no matter who tries to remind you "well that's your father...." family hurts us as much if not more than friends. And a healthy marriage takes support from friends and family... if your step dad is your family,, label or not, than start your wedding walk out on the literal best first step. On the arm of a man who purely wants your happiness no matter what. Maybe ask your dad to dance with you that way they both have a roll to play.
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