Walking down the aisle with dad and stepdad

You arent wrong at all. i think its great that you are acknowlegeming tghem both. and lets be realistic odds are most peopl ethete know you have a step dad. i'm sure yur freinds know and your moms side certainly knows...i woudlnt even worry about it

Thank you im starting to feel better, thats exactly what i told mr fiance, since a lot of his cousins dont know about my family, no matter who i walk the aisle with they wont truly know who that person is, so what difference does it make

Well an dits not gonna be like people ar whispering saying "OMG shes walking down with two men? who ARE these people??" i think most people would realize whats going on

I would think so too, and worse case if they dont then they arent the smartest people in the world and then after at the reception i will be introducing them, so then it should make sense after that and anyone with a dad should be able to comprehend and respect why i had both of them walking me down the aisle

Absolutely1 i would say to your FH, thank you for your thoughts, however, it is impoartant to me to have both of my fathers walk me down the aisle as this day is equally importnt to them both

You aren't wrong at all! Just tell you FH that it's important to YOU that BOTH dads walk you down the aisle, and I'm pretty sure guests won't be confused, or care much that you have two dads walking you down the aisle..and that if it's important to you, then it should be just as equally important to him.

I completely agree with you, im starting to feel like he may be ashamed of me for having a dad and step dad, i expressed the importance to him and he says that my dad has never been there for me, but he doesnt know what went on when i was a child, he is just being very hard headed and going out of his way to disagree with me, its driving me crazy. but you are totally right, and i told him that we shouldnt even be discussing this because i already made up my mind as to who will walk me down the aisle and if he wants to walk down the aisle with his mom or whoever then go right ahead because that is his choice, i also told him to not worry what people will think or say, this is our day and they are our family and if they are going to not like we walking with 2 men or get confused then that is their problem and we shouldnt be basing our whole wedding on what people think only on what we think.

My friend walked down the aisle with both her dad and step-dad and no one seemed confused when I was there. I think it's perfectly fine and I would do the same thing. If it's important to you then I say go for it.

Are you having ceremony programs? One easy way to limit the "confusion" is to indicate who is escorting you in them. I see absolutely nothing wrong with your plan, I think it's fantastic that you have two men who care about you so much! I am also being escorted by two. My dad died when I was 16 and years later my mom married my wonderful stepdad. In order to acknowledge my stepdad for being so awesome and still pay tribute to my dad, I'm walking down with my stepdad and big brother. Everyone's situation is different and you should do what's in your heart to do!

Im not having programs but that is a great idea. i will bring that idea up to my fiance. thank you! and very true we all have different situations and i dont see anything wrong with it.

Hello Meagan - and congratulations on your upcoming wedding. How lovely that you want to honor both the fathers in your life. I participated in a wedding once where the biological father accompanied the bride half way dawn the aisle and the step father then took over. There are lots of ways for this to work without causing confusion. Since you aren't planning to have a program, perhaps the officiant can say a few words about these two men who have been so important in your life. Maybe when the question, "Who presents this woman to be married?" is asked.

It's important to address you fiance's concerns without giving up on something that has so much meaning for you. Talking it over with both your fiance and the officiant is the best idea in my opinion.

Best wishes,

Margaret Sneddon, Harpist

www.margaretsneddon.com

New York, Westchester, CT, NJ

As an officiant, I have done a number of weddings where the bride was presented by both a "Dad" and "Step-Dad." Personally, I think it is wonderful that the three of you can participate in this fashion. You are most fortunate.

I am sorry that your FH is negative on this topic. As you say, your FH does not know or understand your childhood. I do not know the depth of which you and FH have really discussed "two-Dads" presenting you. Is it possible that you and FH discuss this topic with your minister? There might be more to it and some counseling might help.

My very best to you,

Reverend Stan

www.specializedweddings.com

Hi Meagan, I am doing the exact same thing as you for the same reason. My real dad wasn't always there for me when I was growing up and my step-dad has been in my life since I was 5. My dad didn't make all the child support payments and that meant that my step-dad was feeding me, clothing me, making sure there was a roof over my head and one of the best memories, helping me with my homework. He is very important to me. I am very fortunate that my FH never once questioned this decision and totally supports my feelings that they have both supported me and I need this. I have also decided that I am having a father-daughter dance with each of them, different songs, of course because they are different people. Good luck and can't wait to see pictures of this.

I am having my dad and stepdad walk me down the aisle. My dad has always been involved in my life, but my stepdad has been in my life since I was 6 (I'm 33 now), so I feel it is important to honor him as well. I worry that my dad will feel hurt by having my stepdad walk me down the aisle with him, and I don't want to hurt my dad, but it feels like the right thing to do. I feel lucky to have had two great man care so much about me.

To all the brides who have walked the aisle with their dad and step-dad, I need some advice. Was there a formal way to handle this? What I mean is, does it matter which 'dad' is on which side? I have no idea if it matters one way over the other and I don't want to create any issues if it makes a difference. Thanks!! And I'm so glad to see that I'm not the only one going through this decision.

If lamentably the guy's daughter wants her two dads to walk her down the aisle sometime down the road, the guy can at least say that he didn't fail to object to his father-in-law being equalized or demoted or superseded.