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Maddison
Just Said Yes May 2020

Walking alone?

Maddison, on October 11, 2019 at 11:15 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 11
So I have a problem I'm not sure how to settle. I dont speak to my biological father and my step dad isnt the nicest person since him and my mom separated, I feel obligated to have him walk me down the isle since he raised me but at the same time we arent on good terms. I had the idea to have my bestfriend, a male, walk me down the isle since I couldn't find a place for him in the wedding yet and it would crush me if he wasnt. I'm not sure what's best, asking my fiance to put him on his side as just a best man, because they are also very close friends, or somehow having him as my MAN of honor if that's a thing. My other brides maids are my cousin and future sister in law but I'm not as close to either of them like I am with my bestfriend. I need opinions, I dont know what's best here.

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Latest activity by Clarissa, on October 13, 2019 at 6:50 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Your FH gets to choose his side just like you do. If he's close to this friend and wants him to stand with him, that's wonderful, but you shouldn't request it. You can absolutely have him on your side as your man of honor or bridesman if you want him involved.

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  • N
    Master January 2015
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    If you aren't on good terms, you shouldn't feel obligated to have your stepdad walk you down the aisle. I think you should absolutely have your friend included in the wedding, whichever way you see fit. Let your fiancé choose his side though, he can be on either side, man of honor is definitely a thing. You can have your best friend walk you down the aisle, or maybe your mother if you have a good relationship. What's best is what you feel is best, any of the options you're considering are perfectly fine.

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  • Cherry
    Expert February 2020
    Cherry ·
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    My father passed when I was 14 and my mother and brothers offered to walk me down but it just didn't feel right because nobody can replace him. So I'm walking down the aisle with my FH.

    My little brother and I were very close growing up so he's one of my bridal party members. We're calling him the Bridesman (we also secretly call him the "Brosman" for laughs). It's not traditional but it seems most of our wedding isn't! Honestly, nobody has batted an eye at it or made a big fuss.

    If it is important for you to have your friend by your side, you'll find a nice way to honor that without worrying what other people think, whether it's with him walking you down the aisle or standing beside you at the altar. Good luck!
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I'd have your friend be a bridesman and stand on your side. If he is close with your fiance, I assume your fiance would ask him to be a groomsman already so that's another option? I would just walk down alone or have your mother walk you down.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Walk alone Smiley smile I walked alone. See it as your journey to your husband
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  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
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    Definitely make your best friend your man of honor! You deserve to have your best friend right by your side! I was the "Best Woman" in my childhood guy friend's wedding last year. Mixing it up is great. What about having your mom walk you down the aisle? If not, there's definitely nothing wrong about walking alone. It's only lasts a minute and the only thing you'll be thinking about in that minute will be your husband anyways Smiley smile

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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
    Catherine ·
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    Man of honor is totally a thing! if that where you want him then put him next to you. or if you have grandparents have him usher them or your mom in. You shouldn't have you step dad walk you down the aisle if you aren't on good terms. how about your mom? could she walk you? or you could walk alone, a lot of brides do that now.

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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I had a bridesman, my DH had two groomswomen! Absolutely have your best friend on your side - or walk you down the aisle. You can walk yourself down, your mom could, your pet could... or a niece or nephew. (A friend had his niece walk him into the ceremony before his FIL walked his wife, it was SUPER adorable, and his niece felt soooooo special.)

    It's your wedding, you get to decide what you are comfortable with... and who spends the time close to you!

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  • Camilla
    Dedicated June 2021
    Camilla ·
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    I would have him be your Man of honor it can be whatever you want. its ur wedding.

    My daughter is walking me down the isle. My dad recently passed and not as close with my stepdad.

    My daughter is 9 years old and is my Maid of Honor but doesnt want to walk down the isle by herself.

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  • Renee
    Super October 2020
    Renee ·
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    My best friend is walking me down the isle. I was looking for a way to include him in the wedding as well bc even though my best friend is friends with my fiancé, my fiancé already had his side of the wedding party picked out and we don't want to add more to it. So I asked him to walk me down the isle bc my dad died when I was little, my grandfather passed away a few years ago, and the only uncle I talk to isn't always reliable. I could've asked my FIL but I'm not that close to him and I wasn't comfortable with it.

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  • Clarissa
    Savvy May 2021
    Clarissa ·
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    I'm sorry that you are going through this right now, but if you are not on good terms with your stepdad and you don't talk to your dad, walking yourself down the aisle isn't a bad idea. I went to a wedding where the bride walked herself down the aisle and her husband decided to meet her halfway. I don't know if that's something you have considered, but the bride that I saw walk herself down the aisle had a similar situation as you. Also, have you thought about maybe your mom walking down the aisle? I know that strays away from tradition a bit, but it is just a suggestion. Whatever you decide, I hope your wedding day is all that you want it to be.

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