Waiting to get married to book the venue of my dreams...?

Well don't eliminate the other tours you have set up. I had my heart set on a venue from browsing online and scheduled a tour, but had other tours before it. I ended up falling in love with my venue and canceling all other tours, even the one that I had my heart set on. My venue looked nice online, but I didn't think I would love it like I do. So go into it with an open mind for your upcoming tours. Then if you still have your heart set on it, then you have to decide what's more important to you getting married next year, or the venue. A lot of people have long engagements so they can save for the wedding they want. Other people have different priorities like maybe they need to get on their s.o.'s insurance so they wouldn't wait. Just discuss lt with your future spouse and decide what is best for you two.

What’s more important to you; a venue or another year of marriage with your FH? We couldn’t afford our dream venue either, but decided to make that sacrifice because being married was more important to us.

Maybe make a pros and cons list of getting married in 2020 vs 2021? Also, how short would you be? Can you guys sell some junk around the house, tighten the regular household budget, take money away from somewhere else in the wedding budget, pick up extra shifts or do a part time job?

Other than the fact that you've been engaged since 2018, is there any other reason you specifically want the wedding in 2020?

I would definitely continue looking just to be sure. If the venue is the most important to you, whats another year of being engaged? My fiance and I actually settled for one venue because it was nice looking and somewhat cheap (for an inclusive venue). We paid a portion of the deposit (they worked with us) and then before we were going to make the rest of the deposit, something clicked!

All I could keep thinking about was my dream venue! It's more expensive for sure but I talked to my fiance about it and I said this is what we can do to make it work. 100001% determined to make it work and he agreed that as long as it makes me happy, we'll do it. We cancelled the last venue and are currently saving for my dream venue.

If this venue is everything you want, don't settle for less but also don't back out on any other tours you may have set up just yet. If you still can't find anything, just keep saving and then know in the long run it was worth it. Good luck hun.

You just have to decide which is more important to you, getting married in the next year or getting married at the venue of your dreams? There's no wrong answer, it's all up to you! I will say that we almost went with our "dream" venue for a much higher price than we planned on going with, but we ended up finding somewhere very reasonably priced run by the nicest family and we're really glad we didn't book that first venue we went to. Personally, I couldn't wait that long. We won't even be engaged a year before we get married and I STILL feel like it's too far away

I personally would never choose a venue over getting married sooner. It's not worth it to me. You can have a beautiful wedding anywhere. That may not be the right choice for everyone, but I'd find somewhere you can afford and do it when you want to.

You can always negotiate prices with the venuepaaq

I would not go into debt for a wedding. I would make sure you can completely afford whatever it is you choose before booking. If it’s another year to save for a venue, I think that’s a better idea then having to scrimp and save and take out loans. But you need to be ok with waiting. Are you trying to have children right after the wedding? Depending on your ages, that could effect the will to wait. Are you worried about elderly family members attending? Do you want a certain child to be flower girl and she may be too old if you wait? Emotionally, how important is it to marry next year versus the following? This is all stuff you and your fiancé will have to figure out. I don’t think anyone should rush marriage, but if there is a reason why you don’t want to extend the engagement I would definitely continue looking at other venues.

Nothing weird or crazy about that— everyone has very different timelines for very different reasons. I never understood the rush. My dream wedding was more important than the date. My partner and I were already fully committed to eachother (lived together, owned our home together), so it wasn’t like the wedding date itself delayed any part of our day to day lives. If we had to wait for what we wanted, it was no big deal

I would definitely go to the other tours. Sometimes, pictures don't truly represent the venue and you may find one that you love even more than the one you've had your heart set on. When I first started planning, there was this venue in GA that I really loved, but it was two hours away and would have been a long drive for almost everyone in our family. I found a local venue at home that is similar to the one I loved in GA. I wasn't excited about the tour either because it wasn't the resort my heart was set on, but once I walked in my view completely changed! I'm happy I went with the more local venue and didn't turn everything down just for the one I thought I wanted. If you tour one in October that you like but just aren't sure, make a list of pros and cons. Some venues offer different things or offer more than others.

Keep touring with an open mind. You can go back to the venue you currently are in love with and wait another year if other venues don't work out.

My dream venue was this brand new gorgeous estate. Looked like a Hollywood backyard. It didn’t have everything I wanted but it was beautiful. We went to visit with our WP, (her first time too) and found out it was 12g’s..... My daddy would come up out his grave and chop me in my damn throat if I ever even thought about saving for something that I would have for 6 hours out of my life.. so if waiting is your priority, which it sounds like it is not, then keep saving. I would not prolong my engagement for a venue. We are having a 9 month engagement, and I’m over here about to die.

I wouldn’t listen too much to others who say getting married sooner is more important. You’re going to be married til death do you part. One more year will not change that. If that’s the dream then wait another year. I was going to get married in 2021 but we also want to buy a house and start making babies so we settled on next year but honestly it’s been so stressful trying to save 1000 plus a month and still have a decent life. All in all it’s a decision you and your fh need to make. Just remember you’re in it for the long hall and you’ll only do it once so make it what you want it to be. Good luck!