Waiting for the wedding

Just ignore it -- a 16 month engagement is probably pretty average. I definitely wouldn't call it wrong. Take the time to do your research, book the vendors you love, use your budget well. It will be here before you know it. You're almost to the 12 month mark now!

That really isn't that long even! I got engaged April 2017 and am getting married August 2018. When I first got engaged all I did was think about the wedding and how far away it was and how time was moving soooo slow! I would try to focus on the other things going on in your life to make it go by faster! For me, I started a new job last July and am also training for a triathlon. FH is still in college so very focused on schoolwork and graduation (next weekend!!).

You can definitely start planning now though! I booked all my major vendors about a year out. Just explain to people you wanted to enjoy the engagement stage of your relationship and have plenty of time to plan the wedding without too much stress!

My wedding is June 22nd 2019 I got engaged about 7 months ago. I've been asked whybits so far away. I tell them so I can save and so it can be the way I want

We had a 14 month engagement and nobody batted an eye. (In retrospect, I actually wish we had taken our time a little more.)

I definitely wouldn't move it up. People are antsy and want your wedding to happen now now now because people love weddings, but they're not the ones who have to plan it! You take all the time you want/need.

Our wedding is in July 2019, we got engaged December 2017. We have a lot planned already! Venue, officiant, month of coordinator, photographer, florist, and hair and makeup stylist booked, and hotel blocked. I hope to have video, DJ, transportation, caterer, and baker all booked by August 2018. We are taking our engagement pictures July 2018, and sending out Save the Dates in August/September. Then I'm hoping we can take a breath and relax from September-December! I "proposed" to my bridesmaids in April, and he is "proposing" to his groomsmen in July. We've picked colors, theme, and bridesmaids dresses. What I'm trying to say is, your wedding isn't that far away! It will sneak up on you. Especially with bridal shower & bachelorette party. I'm kind of excited to just enjoy being engaged for a little and to start working out/taking better care of my skin & hair. I'm sure friends and family will feel like it's a long time away but it will come quickly especially with how much time planning takes! Some fun things to do would be have an engagement party or go to bridal fairs together!

I don't think your engagement is long at all! We got engaged last February 2017 and we are getting married Sept. 2018, honestly I need more time lol! Believe me you will be happy once the time gets closer that you took more time to prepare, be patient, once you hit the year mark time starts to fly!

You can spread out your planning, tackling one area per month, if you want to do it slow and steady. Or, plan a bunch now, and then go live life for awhile and not think about wedding plans. Or some other variation.

Yours seems like quite a reasonable length of engagement. I'm surprised people are saying things. My daughter's engagement was only 6 months, and a few people said stuff about it being too short. So, people are going to comment, no matter what, really.

Do the best plan that works for you.

We put a hold on planning due to life events (my fiancé’s grandfather passed away and the location we were planning no longer made sense) and as a result my wedding will be a little over two years after my engagement. I wouldn’t worry too much, and a good response if people are being overbearing about it is “I know, the suspense is killing us too! I can’t wait to see you there!”

I need more people around me like you guys, I already feel much better about it!

I just got engaged this past January and my wedding is also June of next year. In my opinion for me it's great timing, because we have to consider expenses we need to cover, especially if you're paying for the whole thing yourselves, and give people time to travel in if they don't live in your state. You do what works best for your timeline.

Just ignore it. We're March 2019, so we have almost as much time! Don't change your day because of nagging. This is YOUR day, no one else's! Research venues, vendors, etc., because I promise it will take every single day of planning. Save money, budget, and start planning the way you want to plan. In my opinion, I have no idea how people do it in under a year. Major props to them because I definitely couldn't! Do your engagement pictures! That will make it feel more real and people will love seeing those. Don't rush anything, this is a once in a lifetime event if done right and you don't want to miss any steps.

Definitely ignore it! We were engaged in February of 2017 and are getting married in June! It has been nice to have time to not stress and to do all the DIY projects that I want to! We also had a massive problem with the original venue so having the extra time allowed us to book a new venue completely and avoid the headache altogether!

Do whatever you feel is right for you. I’m in the same boat, we got engaged last September and are getting married September 2019, so two years to the exact date. We did it because the date means is our anniversary and proposal date, but mostly because of money. I’m paying for it myself (FH is paying for most of honeymoon) so we both need time to save up for everything. But honestly explain why you booked it out so far. You can always say that the date, time of year, and booking of venue all led to that date if that plays a part in it.

I’m surprised you’re getting that reaction! My FH and I got engaged March 2016 and are getting married June 2019 as well. I wanted a long engagement as I was pretty young at the time (had just turned 21). Just tell them you’re taking your time planning so you won’t be stressing!

I got engaged in April 2017 and I had my venue in May 2017 and that's all I really did last year. I had so so so many people tell me how far away it was and I shouldn't be thinking about anything as of yet. I was so excited (and still am), and I know it can be hard to hear those types of comments but you can start thinking of your dress style, decor, and browsing vendors. I know that's what I did. People are going to make those statements no matter what, unfortunately, but it shouldn't kill your excitement or make you move it up or down. They are right with the fact you have plenty of time, but start collecting your ideas together and its totally okay to plan some things now. I know I did and now I'm only 10 months out.

You set your wedding date for what feels right to you and your fiancé. No one else really should even have an opinion. It’s exciting setting your wedding date, no matter when it is. My friend and I got engaged about 3 months apart from each other, she was this past December and I was this past March. Her wedding is in October 2019 and my wedding is August 2018. It all depends on the couple and what your situation is. Enjoy the planning process and try not to let the bull s***t get to you

I got engaged before you and our wedding is after yours haha 16 months isn't that long at all to me. Our engagement will be around 2 years by the time we get married and, yes, we get the "it's so far away" comments constantly but they're not the ones paying for it soo.....

I don't think it's too long. I got engaged in May 2016 and not getting married until July 2019! So I understand. It's kind of nice not having to worry about time and money since its still far out. Hope that helps😊

I didn't read all of the comments above, so this may be repetitive, but long engagements are so common now!!! Yes some people still do less than a year, but the trend is moving toward longer engagements. We will have a 14 month engagement but luckily for us our close friends and family are used to this so we haven't received many questions. If you're looking for something to tell people, I would stick to things such as "this is the timeline that works best for us" or even "we want to be able to have our dream wedding and most venues/vendors book up to 2 years in advance". Many people don't realize that some venues literally are booking now for 2020 and even beyond. Keep your head up and don't consider moving your wedding unless that's truly something you and your fiance want to do yourselves, don't give in to the pressure - you'll regret it.

We got engaged last March (2017) and we are having a June 2019 wedding. Honestly it is going to fly by! Now that we are getting close to a year out things have really picked up. You have plenty to do within a short amount of time! Enjoy every bit of it and take it all in!