Wait time for grieving

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Everyone grieves differently so there really isn't a set timeline. I think as soon as you feel up to planning you can pick a date that will be doable. The thing to keep in mind is that a happy occasion to celebrate as a family may be healing for everyone.

Personally, I would think 3 months out.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I would ask what fmil and fiance want and go with that. They are the ones who are the most effected. But I would say after a few months will be fine

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Would there be any financial benefit of having the wedding this calendar year? Does your FI have any thoughts? I think 3-6 months is enough, but it's ultimately about what you're comfortable doing. That said, you can't stop living your life due to a death. I'm sure your FIL wouldn't have wanted that. Also, your family would probably be glad to attend a happy event after such a tragic one. Lots of hugs!

I'm sorry for your loss.

As far as planning again, I would say talk to your vendors to see what their availability is. The chances of them all being available on the same day in the next 6-9 months are slim. So you need to decide if your vendors are set in stone and find a date a year out... or find new vendors for a date in the next few months.

Thank u all for the advice. Both hubby and I agree that like @futuremrsd and @xtine mentioned maybe a happy celebration will be what we all need and something that FIL had wanted for us. Hopefully we will have an update on the date soon. We will be talking to the church in the next couple of weeks to check dates. Again thank u all. This has been so sad and hard for us.

I would do 9 months or set it on a special date maybe FIL birthday or FIL & MIL anniversary to remember him by so he could be part of your special day just a thought

I'm so very sorry. I think you should ask FH what he thinks he would be good for him. There is no way to schedule grieving. It sounds like the family would be the best people to ask.

I'm sorry for your loss. I'd ask your FH and FMIL what they're comfortable with and defer to that.

That's horrible I'm so sorry that happened. My brother passed away very unexpectedly a few years ago, and everyone grieved differently. Also the grieving process never truly ends. But I can tell you that we all got out of that mental fogginess about 3 months later. So if that's when you feel ready, I'd say go for it. The family will be happy to be happy together. I would have loved if we had a wedding a few months later!

October was suggested by hubby so I'm thinking if that's possible we will. MIL is also ok with that idea since he has mentioned it to her. I lost my father years ago and I still get teary eyed so I definitely know how they are all feeling. But I do want to have some happiness for us all so we can begin to heal and like many mentioned it might be good to have a happy celebration. I hope all turns out well and that when it does happen it will be full of joy. And I know he will be watching us and smiling.

I would ask FMIL and FH what they think is best. I wouldn't do it on FIL's birthday or anniversary because that might make the day too emotional for those still grieving.

So sorry for your loss. Like you said, people grieve for different times. Ultimately, the wedding is going to bring back feelings of loss beyond anyone's control. I think you should talk to your FH and listen to what he thinks. I would not push the wedding back too far.

I am so sorry for your loss, what a tragedy!

I think anything after 3 months would be okay. As others have said, definitely check with MIL and FH to get their input. But I think you can still do it this year. I also agree with not pushing it too far back either.

Good luck with all your future planning.

Thank u all. I will speak to them and see what they prefer. I agree with @ashleyh I don't think I would share his bday or anniversary because of the emotions. But we will honor both our fathers on our day. Oh @amanday I am worried that will also happen that the emotions will be so high. I don't want to push it too far as we have waited years for this special day. I would like our day to be happy but I know it will also be sad. I am beside myself with sadness for our day and the loss. Again thank u all and I hope to update u soon. Have a good day all

One of my childhood friends lost her dad days before her wedding. They didn't change the date, and instead, found happy ways to honor him at the wedding. I think it all depends on the individual family as to timing.