Vows

My hubby and I wrote our vows and it was absolutely the best decision for us. Even though I hate crying in front of people, like you do, I ended up crying & was surprised to find that I didn’t care. I was so focused on my husband that everything and everybody else faded away.

I am writing my own. I want him to know what I think and feel. I think it's ok if you don't write your own because you'll have a lifetime with him to express it to him

We are writing ours. That moment is about you and your partner. I know I’m going to cry but I also know that telling him in the best way how I feel about him and hearing him pour his heart out with all of the beauty and excitement of that day, will be such a special moment for him and I that will last a lifetime. I hate crying in front of people to, but when I think about, the only person that I’ll matter will be him. So it’ll be worth it

FH wanted to write ours so that’s what we’re doing. I know I’ll be crying anyways so I figured why not. It’s okay not to write your own vows. Do what makes you comfortable.

We are writing ours but also gave ourselves a deadline of 3 weeks before the wedding so if we aren’t satisfied with what we have written then we will just do traditional vows. That way, the pressure is off and what we had written for vows will just go into the letters we are writing each other.
I know I will cry whether I speak the traditional or personal vows, so that didn’t really play into my decision haha.

We aren’t writing ours. It wasn’t a priority for us, so we both thought it was just another essay we’d have to write. We’re going to stick with traditional “I do”s with a poem stuck in the middle.

We're actually doing both. We will have a private moment earlier in the day to exchange gifts and read our written vows to each other. We'll do the traditional vows during the ceremony.

I was going back and forth as well and decided to go with a more traditional vow instead of writing our own. We are going to write each other letters to read the morning/day of that are private and between us. Had we gone with eloping, I would be more comfortable writing our own. Because we will have around 80 guests present, we are not comfortable writing our own. We are private people and it just works better for us this way.

We're doing both written and traditional vows. I haven't even started mine. I love to write so I'm sure the words will flow once I get started.
If you do write your own and begin to cry, it'll be a beautiful moment. Don't worry about everyone watching. I'm sure it'll feel like it's just you and your soon to be husband in the room.

This is actually really important to us. We will be writing our own.

We plan on writing personal vows and using tradition ones during the ring exchange.

I had the same hesitations... I am emotional, but our officiant said that being real shows how much you care and that emotions are okay. They are not bad, nor something to be ashamed of. He also told us to practice them, let each other see them, it’s okay, our marriage won’t fail because we saw each other’s vows beforehand, and I think it will be great. We want things to be special and personal.

I think what is making me the most nervous about it is that it's so personal I almost feel like it shouldn't be shared in front of so many people. I really like the idea of writing him a letter for the morning of though maybe I can do that and just do traditional vows for the ceremony.