Vows

Think about your spouse - their qualities, why you fell in love with them, what you hope to promise and achieve in your journey together, etc.

I put a lot of personal things in the first half, mentioning a special vacation we took, thanking him for being the head chef in our kitchen, and kitty daddy to our cat kids and the put in the “I promise too’s”. in the second half.

We wrote ours together, but I think our process would still work well if you're writing yours separately. Give yourself time and write down anything that comes to you or any samples you like (even if it's just the style) online, wherever are when this happens. Make a Google doc you can access on your phone, or get a tiny notebook to keep in your bag. Whenever you're ready (or you can't procrastinate any longer) decide how many vows you want. Look at everything you've written down and look for themes, because if you wrote it down multiple times, it's important to you. If you have a vow that you like already written for each theme, you're done! If not, you can write new ones or rewrite the ones you found to make them fit your preferred style.


Let me know if that was confusing or you want examples.
Ours were literally just vows, but if you're doing a whole I LOVE YOU part, a common format is·when we first met... ·something funny happened... ·and I knew I loved you. ·these are your best qualities... ·then vows·then say, "I love you."

I constructed a story more or less. I began with a memory of when we first met...moved into the qualities he possesses, then into more future concepts, specifically, I vow to be etc. Mine ended up being 3.5 minutes and his were 4 minutes. Make sure you guys are on one accord so one doesn’t outshine the other!
Best wishes!

I opened with how we met. I went into how he makes me feel and the moment I knew I loved him. His personality/qualities and future plans were mentioned. Finally, my promises and what I would do to be the best wife that I can be.

Maybe youre just getting in your head about what the guests will think of them. If you add in some personal stories and what you love about your FH it wont sound scripted

I struggled for weeks, and then had to focus and make myself do it. I asked a writer friend to help edit.

I tried to work in some of the in-jokes and sayings we have, our shared passions, and why I was marrying him (he leaves dinner made up and ready for me to reheat when I work late, he's an excellent nurse to me when I'm sick, etc.). We are actors, so I wasn't afraid to have a little humor as well.

Practice reading what you wrote out loud, that will help with pacing.