Vows

I would suggest keeping it short, sweet, and to the point. Write about the promises you are making to him, and maybe a few other things as well. Anything else, you could include in a letter to him that he can read before the ceremony. I suggest checking out Pinterest or an online search for vow examples!

We are writing our own vows. I keep editing mine whenever I remember anything important or worth to mention. It’s soooo hard to keep it short. I want to keep the my vow under a minute, andddddd I still can’t read it without crying. I already added funny stuff we did, but that makes me cry too. We have been together for 24 years, so there is soooo many bitter and sweet memories which shape us who we are now. I would suggest to keep it short, romantic, a bit funny, and unique! Also, I will write it on a special paper and pen so I can keep ours.

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Ugh! I just got through the first few lines and I'm getting so emotional!

This might be harder than I initially thought LOL.

Write what comes natural to you, whether it's serious, goofy or in between. There's no rules and it doesn't have to match your fiance's.

just know that you can't fit everything you'd want to say and express into your vows and that's ok because you'll have a lifetime to tell your spouse how you feel.

so in the minutes you have to express your vows, say what you love about him, what you hope to accomplish together, and the kind of person you want/hope to be for them

I love writing so when my husband suggested writing on our vows I was all for it. Apparently he was actually kidding and didn't think I would agree because I get really nervous speaking in public. The joke was on him because I agree and he had a difficult time writing his because he thought he was just going to wing it until the officiant requested them weeks in advance. For me, I watched Youtube videos and read samples online to get an idea. A wedding planner named Jamie Wolfer has a Youtube channel where she gives all sorts of advice and one of her videos is how to write your own vows. I would recommend checking that out.

We're writing our own. I'm putting in when we first met, first date, how he makes me feel, his personality, our future and the promises I'll make to him as his wife. Might sound like a lot but I won't be on each subject long. Vows typically read out to about 2-3 mins or so at the longest.

View Quoted Comment This. Keep in mind the purpose of the vows. They are primarily meant to be the proclamation of your promises to each other as a married couple. A vow, by definition, is a promise. I said a few lines about how much he means to me and then like 6 promises I make to him (mostly sappy/serious but a few more lighthearted ones). When I was researching online, I saw that they recommend like 2-3 minutes.

Start with writing the actual vows, rather than the, "why I love you," part. Once you know what the actual vows (aka the important parts) are going to be, you'll know what you're leading into with your story, so it'll be easier to write something succint and appropriate.

Write down everything you want to say, but start every sentence on a new line, preferably with a space in between each line. I recommend writing, in pen, rather than typing, because it pretty much forces you to keep everything.
Go through your list and look for themes. If you something keeps coming up, it's important to you and you should definitely include it.
After you've gotten everything out of your head and you know what topics you want to cover, think about how long you want your vows to be.
Then, go back and find the best example of each theme and edit them so they sound good together.
We wrote ours together (we each contributed random thoughts to a shared Google doc over the course of several months) and by the time we actually sat down to go through them we had several pages to choose through, but having a system made it fairly easy to finish them. We ended up choosing to have five promises (although your length could be a number of words or minutes). Our themes were adventure, listening, laughter, love/support, and not judging each other.