Vows read by the officiant

I am writing my own and feel nervous to read them out loud! Or wait!?!? I probably have to memorize?!?! So I completely understand! Anyway.... Seems different that the officiant would read your vows for you. I don't think I've seen that before. Usually when a story is told about the couple the person know them well. Congratulations and good luck on your special!

We might do something like this. We will do just the regular traditional vows but we're also writing something about each other to make the ceremony more personal and probably have the officiant read it. Here is what was in one of the templates our officiant gave us.

Officiant:

As X and X prepared for the ceremony part of this wedding celebration, they reflected on what it is that they love about each other. And this was was the easiest part of planning this wedding!

To the Groom:

______ (Groom’s name), ______ (Bride’s name) loves that you blend in so comfortably with her family. She sees in you a funny, kind, and sweet man. She loves that you think she is funny and that you always find a way to compliment her.

To the Bride:

______ (Bride’s name), _____(Groom’s name) loves your brain, your smile, and your beauty. He appreciates that you are “low maintenance.” He likes that you can be really silly. He loves your emails and texts. He loves your cooking. He loves your kisses. He just really loves you!

My future husband and I feel the same way! We do not want to write our own vows and we definitely didn’t want to ready anything in front of anyone haha. When talking with our officiant she she that we should write our own vows and she will read them. She sent us some samples but I have a feeling we are going to go with the standard “do you promise to blah blah blah” but we are going to write a each other a nice note to read the morning of the wedding

Hi Melanie! I definitely think this could work! You both could draft something and have the officiant deliver it in a casual, third-person tone as explained by Lysa! That would actually sound beautiful!

We went to a wedding last spring and the officiant read letters that the bride & groom had previously written to one another. They had things like why they love one another, promises for the future, and hopes & dreams that they want to achieve together. It was sweet and after the ceremony they both said they were so grateful to have someone do that part for them because they were so nervous!

My fiance and I want to do this, but the way I wrote my vows to him include "I love you because x, y, z." Is it weird if the officiant reads it the way I wrote it instead of using 3rd person? It wouldn't make sense to change it to 3rd person the way I wrote it.