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Vow renewal

Noelle, on September 25, 2020 at 4:57 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5
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I eloped with my husband who is in the military. We keep getting told it’s too late to have a wedding because we’re already married. So I’ve gotten a lot of advice to do a 5 year vow renewal! What are some do’s and don’ts of a vow renewal? I’ve never been to one or know someone who has had one. Would it be inappropriate to go all out? Just looking for some friendly advice please and thank you!


  • Lindsay
    Beginner November 2020
    Lindsay ·
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    My friends actually did this and they did the whole shebang! I think they were technically married for 5 years before they had a wedding. I don’t think it’s inappropriate at all. They were in the same situation as you and your husband, and nobody thought anything of it. I say do what makes you happy! You deserve a wedding if that’s what you want
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  • Michelle
    VIP April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I’ve seen both. Do what makes you happy!
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  • Belle
    VIP July 2021
    Belle ·
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    Happy to say —-> There is no rule <——-

    We eloped when we got pregnant at 18 & 23, with no money, no wedding. We just had an intimate church ceremony with only his parents and that’s that. It felt super weird. We didn’t choose any ring, I didn’t choose a dress, nothing. We did have lunch before the elopement with a few friends with a small store bought cake (I asked to put our names on it). I had zero excitement, and honestly super sad that time.
    We supposed to do an intimate wedding (bow renewal if anyone prefer that) last July, bit covid blew the plan away. 2021 doesn’t look promising to me either, so 2022. It will be our 25th anniversary too. So, there is never too late to me.
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  • Marabeth
    Devoted September 2021
    Marabeth ·
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    There really is no rules. We eloped last Friday (for my medical/insurance reasons) and we’re planning on going through with our original ceremony in November of this year. I’ve seen people go all out and people so something small for vow renewals. People waiting for big anniversaries and people doing it on their one year anniversary. Especially with Covid I think a lot of people are having small ceremonies or eloping now and having the big stuff later when things calm down. It’s really what’s best for you and what you want.
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  • L
    Expert September 2020
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    Not too late. People do vow renewals all the time. I feel like it would be more strange to have a big wedding then another huge vow renewal five years later. But people technically havent really celebrated you yet at a big party so it would work
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