Vow Renewal and Kids

You can have them be flower children, but honestly, everyone doesn't need to be directly in the wedding party. How many children are you talking? I think anymore than 5 or so flower children/ring bearers may become a little much. They're involved by being in attendance.

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We have three(12, 10 and 3 at the wedding). Two nephews under 4. One niece under 3. Another three nephews and one niece under ten. Family is important to us. Especially the kids.

View Quoted Comment So 10 children total? The primary roles for children are usually flower girl/ring bearer/sign holder. The older kids may be able to act as ushers, but I'm assuming the 12 year old is the best man, so maybe the 10 year old can be an usher.

Honestly, were I you, I would only have my own children in the wedding, since there are so many. (Full disclosure, we had no children in our wedding)

I would ask any kids ~8+ what they want to do, but you could offer suggestions like walking down the aisle (I have no idea if you will have an aisle or a processional for a vow renewal), giving a reading, performing a piece of music, etc. I wouldn't assign them roles that are actually just tasks (e.g., guest book attendant, passing out programs, taking coats) unless you know they like doing things like that at parties. And if they don't want to do anything but be a guest, that's fine, too.

For the younger children, there's not really anything they can do but be flower/ring children; the good thing is that they are probably too young to feel left out if they don't have a named role. You can also just make sure to take special photos with each of them.