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Just Said Yes September 2018

Vow Renewal and bigger ceremony on 1 year anniversary

Chelsea, on September 9, 2018 at 6:35 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5
My husband and I got married on April 1, 2018. It's a long story but I moved from Maine to NC, found my incredible man, and our relationship moved fast. His parents loved me until he moved out of their house with me and it got worse when we got engaged. They were incredibly mean and spiteful. They claimed the only reason their would have ever proposed to me would be because he must have accidentally knocked me up and was trying to do the right thing. They told us our wedding date wouldn't work for them and we were inconsiderate. It got so bad that they were banging on our apartment door in the mornings harassing us. So we only told my best friend and closest family in Maine and we drove up for a very tiny, half planned, wedding. Our relationship is wonderful but we never got to have our big wedding surrounded by friends, family, music, and party. So we decided to have a vow renewal ceremony and reception on the year mark so those who love us as friends or family can be present and celebrate with us. We also had a photographer paid for but not used yet and I'd love some proper wedding photos with my grandmother (who raised me) because while I'm so glad to be married, I wish I'd have had the big celebration. Is it weird for us to send out invites and make a big deal of this celebration on our one year mark? We kept our actual wedding hush hush. And it's not being treated as a wedding, but where we will exchange new vows and celebrate with good food and music. I just need some advice before we cement this plan...

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Latest activity by HayMrsO, on September 10, 2018 at 1:05 PM
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    Super October 2017
    Emily ·
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    I think as long as you are honest about the fact that this is a vow renewal/anniversary then you are good to go. Just make sure not to pretend this is your wedding as you are already married.

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  • Camille
    Devoted October 2020
    Camille ·
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    It sounds like a great plan! Just make sure you let everyone know that it’s a vow renewal. I love this, though! It sounds like it would be such a sweet moment wjth everyone surrounding you and I don’t blame you at all for wanting the big celebration!
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  • Nicole
    Expert May 2019
    Nicole ·
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    I think it’s a great idea.
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    Just Said Yes September 2018
    Chelsea ·
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    Thank you. The idea wasn't even proposed by me. But my husband thought of it. We had people picked out for groomsmen and bridesmaids. They all had things they wanted to stand up and say. These people are the ones who supported us when no one else did. I think they deserve a big party just as much as we do, if only for the sake of going through all the crap with us. It's definitely a vow renewal, but I want it taken seriously. I want to feel similar to when I was planning our wedding. I just want to be excited for this and I'm always worried about naysayers.
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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
    HayMrsO ·
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    It should be taken seriously! Enjoy your party. You certainly deserve it.

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