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I have had that same experience! My FH and I are paying for the wedding and everyone I talk to starts talking about “well I’m just trying to save you some money”. For example, the photographer and the dessert. We hired a photographer (because pictures are SO important to us). We want to do donuts instead of cake and every time I bring it up someone mentions “well wouldn’t it be cheaper to do cake” or “can’t your aunt do the pictures”. Let us do the planning - we will save money where we fee we can.

View Quoted Comment It’s so frustrating!!! I also had an issue with cupcakes. I was told they’d be nasty if I didn’t let so and so do them... who is not a baker lol Whatever 🙄 We are also paying for it ourselves... I appreciate the help but no thanks.

View Quoted Comment Oh hey! Your wedding is the weekend after mine. Almost date twins 🎉

Oh boy! I’ve had the opposite. My SIL is an awesome photographer. I hired her to do my wedding photos. Others are having a fit because she’s not “professional” enough. This is the second wedding for each of us and it’s extremely casual. No pressure for formal portraits. I wish no matter what their opinion some folks would butt out.

View Quoted Comment Oh! Cheers! Do you feel like you have so much to do and wanna get it done now and then remind yourself we have almost a year 😂😂

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! I’ve been using the checklist on here, and I’m on track... but I keep looking ahead and start to panic. 😂😂 I have to slow down sometimes and remember that I have plenty of time.

That would irk my nerves too. If they keep bothering you, I'd just say it's already been decided on and is taken care of!

View Quoted Comment That’s just it! Either side of the spectrum, it’s your day and your choice.

View Quoted Comment That’s what my FH says. He tries to shut them down before they get to me lol

We had a very short, 5 month engagement. And every week of that time at least once, I blessed my Mom, for never interfering, and my MIL for not only never interfering, but putting in their place her various daughters and DIL whose ideas on weddings were completely different from ours, and who knew everything about everything ---or so they seemed to think. In the few times we went to NYC and were with them for big family dinners, some one of the women would start up. And after one sentence, MIL would Interrupt. "Excuse me. But is this your wedding? No it is not. This is J and T's wedding. So be quiet, please. They are not asking your opinion. " The woman is a gem. If I could clone her and loan her out, I would.

View Quoted Comment Haha I need her to follow me around for the next 11 months 😂 I’ve heard that some people do shorter engagements to avoid the drama, and I can’t believe I have so long to go with it 😞

My mother in law did that aha. She felt like we should have gotten married at a venue she could have gotten for us for free but didn't think about the fact that we got married where we met which was sentimental to us.

That is the exact reason we have kept most details to ourselves. I didn't want to hear how other people would do things, or how their weddings were. If I had a specific question, I asked a couple people I trust the most.

View Quoted Comment Exactly!! And there’s so much I have planned still that no one even knows about.