Brianna
Dedicated September 2021

Virtual Ceremony Wording

Brianna , on July 17, 2021 at 12:15 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 14
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Hey ladies! September 25, 2021 wedding here and I’m stuck and I need so help with ideas for politely wording virtual wedding ceremony invites to the friends and family who didn’t make the cut for the in person wedding! We had to change venues and that cut our guest list in half! How would you phrase it to where you wouldn’t feel offended!?

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Latest activity by Brianna , on July 21, 2021 at 11:10 PM
  • Jacks
    Master September 2019
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    Have you already sent invitations or save the dates to the entire guest list?

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  • JM Sunshine
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    I would not send a virtual invite for those who are not invited in person--I know I would personally be offended. The exception was in 2020 when weddings were limited to 10-12 people.
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  • Brianna
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    I’ve only sent out the invitations to the guests who we want to physically attend.
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  • Brianna
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    Thank you! Sometimes it takes us writing our thoughts out and getting feedback, to see how rude it is lol I feel so horrible now!🥲 I was just trying to make everyone feel included but you can’t make everyone happy!
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  • Jacks
    Master September 2019
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    Exactly! Yes, I agree with everyone else. Don't "tier" your guests to make everyone feel included, because they really aren't. Glad you asked!

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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
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    I agree with everyone else! Just invite the people who will be able to attend physically since it's best to avoid tiered weddings if you don't want to offend people. Since you only sent invitations to the in-person people, then just stick with those

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  • Brianna
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    Thank you all so much!! I actually feel a little more relieved 😅
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  • Jacks
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    Woo hoo! Less to do, lol.

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  • Annabel
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    I think virtually inviting the guests is a really cool idea that would be appreciated.

    This is really a case of "It's Not What You Say, It's How You Say It"

    What I had done for my wedding was that I told virtual guests that they were invited to the virtual wedding. And that I'd love to meet with them in person for dinner at my place. This way it reads more like an invitation to the virtual wedding and a future in-person dinner.

    I've already followed up with a few of those dinners
    😉, and to be honest with you, the time I've spent with people at a dinner has been much nicer than the rushed greetings I had with the guests at my wedding!

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    Maybe I’m in the minority here but I actually don’t see anything wrong with virtual wedding invites. Even though things are better now than they were earlier in the year regarding Covid, that doesn’t change the fact that you needed to book venues months in advance.


    As long as those who are no longer invited are not a part of groups with members who would be invited, AND if your wedding is now very small, I think it’s fine. Might not fly if your in person wedding is still like 50+ people though Smiley winking
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  • Brianna
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    Thank you! This makes sense too!
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  • Jacks
    Master September 2019
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    Any time you tier guests into levels of "importance", you risk hurt feelings.

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  • Annabel
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    Any time you have a wedding, you risk hurting feelings. It doesn't mean you shouldn't get married though!

    Let's be honest, it's not feasible (especially economically) to invite every person that you know to your wedding. You have to decide who can go and who cannot. But having a virtual option makes this easier.

    And at the end of the day, these people that you are inviting are your family and friends. More than anyone, these people will be understanding and happy for you.

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  • Brianna
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    So very true! Thank you for this input😊
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