Vilified for waiting?

I think people insulting people is nothing new, and it's a sickness in our society.

Do what you feel is best and, if someone doesn't want to come because of their personal health concerns, that is absolutely their right and they shouldn't be made to feel bad about it, either.

At the end of it all, do what you want to do and understand why others may not participate...and ignore anyone who only seeks to make others feel badly. The world needs more positivity, so don't support the negative Nancy's

Yeah I think people just feel like large events should be postponed until things are clearer but honestly I don’t see the harm of people wanting to have it - whomever isn’t comfortable with going, can just not attend.

I cannot even describe how wonderful it was to be surrounded by family and friends on my wedding day. I’m sad that that is so difficult for brides this year. I completely understand people wanting to wait to have a wedding. It doesn’t mean they don’t want to be married. Don’t listen to the negativity...some people will criticize you know matter what you do.

I agree with PPs not to listen. People always seem to feel the need to judge others for something or another. My FH and I have waited seven years to get married already, if we had to postpone to next year it’s just another year. We’re no less committed just because we want to celebrate our marriage with all the people we love who love us!

Yes I have heard similar messages and I simply don’t agree with them. I believe we 2020 brides, with careful planning, can have a beautiful wedding. Maybe not exactly the wedding we all had in mind - but full of love nonetheless. Keep your head up.

I’ve seen people post memes and stuff saying that. For me, a wedding is one of the only times you will have all your favorite people together and also my family is getting older and weddings are basically the ONLY time the entire family gets together!

More than anything, I think I’m surprised that such statements would even matter... especially if it’s on this WW forum of strangers. But even if it’s from someone we know, why be bothered by it? I view it as an opinion and we all get to have our own opinions. All that matters is doing what you and your FH want. That might sound cliche or repetitive. But it’s so true. I would have loved to move forward with our wedding this October. But doing so wasn’t the best plan for our destination wedding. However, I realize that other Fall 2020 brides have different wedding plans, locations, guest counts, etc. So they can totally go through with their wedding this year, as they should. But the decision to postpone until next October was personal to us and OUR wedding weekend plans.

There's nothing wrong with wanting a wedding. There are certain religions that you actually are supposed to have very elaborate ceremonies that last several hours. Obviously there will be some people who got married with massive weddings with no safety precautions in the peak of covid, but not everyone that wants a wedding is like this. People are ridiculous and just want to complain and somehow think that anyone still planning on a wedding is trying to make it all about them. 😒 No one should feel ashamed for wanting their wedding when it's been so normal and so standard in society.

Ignore and ignore some more. Ya know what, people are saying we need to start learning to live with this virus and it does not seem to be going away any time soon. Just like business had the right to open up during this time why can't you have a wedding. Like a PP said, you cannot be mad at someone not attending if they are concerned about their healthy and safety but they cannot fault you for wanting your day. Just make sure you follow necessary guidelines to keep you two safe and have your day. You should not have to wait if you do not want to.

I definitely think that’s an unfair judgment. This pandemic has put a lot of people in a rough spot. There’s many reasons why some couples may want to not only delay the wedding but also the marriage. I personally wanted to elope earlier this month but I’m still dealing with COVID-19 symptoms. I would prefer to get married after my health improves since I can’t even be close to my FH right now. I also want everything to be on one date. Don’t pay those people any mind because you’re doing what you want to do and what makes you happy.

Why wouldn't you want to get married with those you love there to surround and support you? I wanted to get married and I wanted a wedding (if we're going to get nit-picky and disambiguate them). I love being married to H - and I wanted to have family and friends there to see me make that commitment. Remember opinions are like rectums - everyone has one - yours (and your FH's in this case) is the one that matters.

I've heard this too, not directed at me, but I've read it. All I can say is don't listen to the noise. Everyone's going to have an opinion but what matters is what you and your FI want. I want my wedding too....I don't want to elope or have a small wedding. If I wanted that then I would have planned it that way to start!

I have not heard that, but if someone said that to me, I would say: "To me a marriage is two families becoming one; and therefore, it is important to me to have my loved ones with my when I commit my my partner for the rest of my life."

I also think that's an unfair judgement! There's a lot more that each couple is considering when deciding to postpone or push ahead than just the guest size and party atmosphere. And wanting to include a lot of guests in your celebration isn't something to be judged!

Our wedding is on September 19th. We contemplated delaying until next year. However, our venue reopened and restrictions have loosened. We have a small guest list. What’s to say things will change much in 6 months to a year as far as the virus goes?
We are moving forward. If it means we have 20 guests, so be it.

Hi there my fiance and I had our dste set for May 16th, and we also had to postpone. Were not set for September 5 which now were thinking we might need to postpone again. I HAVENT HEARD OF THIS SHAMING. Thats so upsetting that theres people like that out there. My fiance and I have been together for 7 1/2 years and we want to be married already to start our own family soon. It makes me sad that people would think of this in such a negative way :[ we have all the hope in the world that our new date will work for our venue, friends and family.