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Just Said Yes May 2019

Viewing wedding pictures at photographer’s house

Elizabeth, on June 14, 2019 at 5:57 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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So it’s been 5 weeks today since our wedding. I contacted the photographer after the month mark just to check on an eta. She was getting close to being finished and said we needed to find a time my husband and I could come to her house to view the photos. First, that seems odd to us. Why do we have to come to her house to see the pictures for the very first time? I’d like that to be something between just me and my husband. Second, when I told her my husband is super busy with work right now and we may not be able to come then she said she’d come to our house. Again, odd. So I said I could just come by myself. When we started discussing a time she said she was going out of town for the weekend (Thurs-Mon) so it would have to be the following week. So I asked if she finished before she left town would we still have to wait to see the pictures or could she just send them. She said well that would be no fun! I’m so baffled as to why we have to view them with her. Also, she was 45 minutes late the day of the wedding which put us off schedule and I’m pretty sure there are several shots I asked for (on a questionnaire she sent me) that she didn’t get. Trying not to get upset until I see the finished pictures. Any thoughts ?

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Latest activity by MrsJohansson, on June 15, 2019 at 6:00 AM

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Caytlyn · on June 14, 2019 at 6:03 PM
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Is an album part of your package? That's the only reason I can think of. I would just ask her.
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earias · on June 14, 2019 at 6:06 PM
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This is really strange and is not common at all. I would be blunt with her. Tell her you and your husband don't have time for this and you want your pictures now. Ask her for her reasoning (just out of curiosity) but still insist on her sending you the pictures. I remember back in the old days before digital photography photographers used to send "proofs" which the couple would go through and select the ones they want but they still didn't do that with the photographer. Instead they would get a box of these "proofs" to go through at home. But now almost all photography is digital and they usually just send you a link to the gallery to download the pictures.
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MrsJohansson · on June 14, 2019 at 6:20 PM
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First - does she provide an online ability to view the proofs and or download images? Was this mentioned or provided for in the contract? It's not completely odd if the photographer doesn't provide this.. some photographers prefer to be more personal (or 1 on 2 in this case).
I think there are 2 big problem here.. communication and expectations. You seem mad about things you haven't asked or communicated about. Almost nitpicky honestly. Have you tried just saying point blank that you don't want to view the pics with her and when/how you can expect her to provide the photos? What does the contract say?
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Kelly · on June 14, 2019 at 6:28 PM
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Kind of strange! Why do you need to go see her? Does she not do online proofing?
It'd be really odd to not to in today's world.
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Just Said Yes May 2019
Elizabeth · on June 14, 2019 at 6:51 PM
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Yes an album is part of our package.
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Just Said Yes May 2019
Elizabeth · on June 14, 2019 at 6:55 PM
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Yes all pictures will be provided in online gallery. An an album is included in the contract. And I haven’t asked her yet because I wanted to ask others if this is the norm since I’ve never dealt with a professional photographer before. Also I feel I have every right to be “nitpicky” with as much as we paid her. She was great to work with and the preview pics were wonderful. I just wanted to see if I’m only one who thought this was odd before I approach her about it. Thanks for your input.
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Kelsey · on June 14, 2019 at 8:37 PM
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Yeah this is strange! It should be up to your convenience as the client how you receive the photos (within whatever was in the contract), not her preference. Maybe she’s stalling to buy more time because she knows it’ll be hard to find a time for everyone in person? Kind of sounds like that to me....
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Mandi · on June 14, 2019 at 10:08 PM
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Is your photographer older?
I'm pretty sure I did this as a kid with family photos and with my senior photos. Might just be the way they've always done things and don't know it's strange to people now.
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MrsJohansson · on June 15, 2019 at 6:00 AM
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I understand that and I'm sorry if my post came off the wrong way. I call things as I see them. Of course you have the right to express concerns and to have preferences and to ask others for help! At the same time, it's important to be reasonable. It's not reasonable to start complaining about every little thing that you didn't bring up with her when they happened and confront her with an attitude. Just because you paid money doesn't mean respect goes out the window. Not saying you have done something bad yet but I sense you are upset about the situation and sometimes its easy to forget everyone is human.

Have you considered the possibility that maybe she is not done yet? I wonder if she is just buying time. Does she even have to have the photos up yet? Just talk to her and say what you prefer. Be firm.
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