Videographer not posting to Instagram

It could be that you didn’t sign an agreement for him to share, since it will be advertising on his IG. Can you put it up on yours?

Honestly I feel you hard on this. I don't expect my wedding to be posted. Most weddings I see get posted are just of very beautiful people, I hardly see average looking or overweight people. If you're comfortable reach out and ask them to post, they probably will.

View Quoted Comment If I were looking for a videographer, I would love to see a normal looking couple, they really should think about that market! I’m totally average, it would nice to see videos that don’t look like the bride, groom and guests were models!

Like Samantha suggested, check your contract to see if there's a clause about sharing it to their social media! Don't be afraid to reach out and ask if they plan on posting it, but I wouldn't necessarily TELL them to!

A lot of photographers and videographers have a very specific aesthetic, and only post weddings that fit that aesthetic in order to keep their social media uniform. Maybe they didn’t feel the photos/video of your wedding would make sense on their insta pages. However, if they sent you all the images/video on USB, you can easily upload them to your own social media and share them with your friends and family.

To add, our photographer posted many of our engagement photos to her Instagram page. Then, a couple months later, she decided to go a completely different direction with the aesthetic of her photography (focusing more on the dark, moody vibe that is so popular right now, instead of the light, airy, monochrome look she previously favored), so she removed all of our photos. As hard as it may be, try not to take it personally. While these photos/videos are incredibly important and emotional to us, we have to remember that they are a job/income to the people who shot them; and they have to choose what to post based on what represents their brand.

If you’re just asking so you can share the video with friends and family, is there a reason you can’t just post it to Instagram/social media yourself ?


There is a lot that goes into the curation of a company’s Instagram , so the timeline can often be way off of the real life schedule of events. And as a business page, it is curated advertising. (Some instas may be just a means to share images with clients, others are just a means to promote their work, so they’ll want to be highlighting specific aspects of their portfolio and abilities that have very little to do with the couple in question) And others are right with contracts etc .
I don’t think it is appropriate to ask someone TO post something on social media — their feed is personal and part of their business and art . But if you wanted to ask something, I think you could ask IF they are going to post it on social media

I think if you want to share your video with family and friends, you should just upload it onto your own social media page.


Like others have mentioned, videographers and photographers have certain aesthetics that they like to keep uniform when it comes to showcasing their work online. Heck even florists do.

Thanks everyone, the weird thing about this videographer’s Instagram doesn’t seem to go for a certain aesthetic. His videos are kind of all over the place and the thumbnails on his feed are all just the company logo. I watched other videos and the people in the videos seem just like normal people, including overweight people, ect. I was under the impression that I couldn’t post it on my social media because it was his work, not mine. I

Sorry it just cut me off in the middle and posted haha I’m new to this. I checked the contract and it didn’t have any stipulation about posting to social media. I think I’m just going to message him and say something like “we are just so in love with our wedding video and we were wondering if you mind if we share it on our instagrams so our friends and family can easily watch it.” I’m just going to do that and see what happens. :-) Thanks for the encouragement. Like some of the others said, I also appreciate seeing “normal” people and in this day and age everyone deserves to feel represented!

Is there a reason that you can't post it to social media to share with your family and friends? You can ask him to post it, but I don't think he is obligated to unless its in the contract. I personally wouldn't care whether they posted mine or not lol I would just do it myself.

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Now that you've checked your contract, you are safe to go ahead and share it however you like. I wouldn't bother messaging him to ask for his permission at this point; he has already granted it via the contract language.

View Quoted Comment It's his work but it's your wedding. You are allowed to post the video to social media yourself, just like you're allowed to post your wedding photos.

^^ I know my photographer just asked that we give her credit/tag her if we shared her work!

I've seen instances of this for sure where the photographer or videography doesn't always post every photo or video session. but if you have the video just upload it on youtube and share it that way!

You know I've never thought about that. My photographer did an AMAZING jobs on our engagement photos, but he never posted on his IG. I didn't think nothing of it at first, but once I started to see other couples posted, I began to wonder was it because we are black. His social media shows all other races except African Americans.
Should I say something???

View Quoted Comment I would not say anything. As has been pointed out, what photographers and videographers choose to post on their social media rarely has anything to do with the appearance (including skin color) of the couples, and everything to do with how the images fit into their social media/represent their brand. The images from your wedding could be absolutely gorgeous, but if they don’t fit into the brand they are trying to create, they still won’t post them. (Example: if the photographer is trying to create a cohesive Instagram page, they may post only weddings that fall into a certain color scheme or theme)

View Quoted Comment Wow that’s actually messed up.

UPDATE: Like I said yesterday, the videographer didn’t have an aesthetic to their Instagram because they just used a thumbnail with their logo on it. I got over my anxiety and mustered up the strength to text him about it and turns out he just totally forgot to upload it. I played dumb and said it like this “Hi _____, we love our video so much and we wanted to share the video via Instagram and YouTube since since most family and friends weren’t able to make it. Is that something you’ll be uploading still or do we have permission to share it as long as we credit your company?” He ended up calling me and we had a nice conversation about it and got it all sorted. To anyone else that this has happened to, I encourage you to not be a baby like me and dwelling on it for weeks and just ask.