Very few rsvps..help!

You've got two months. Most people don't RSVP until nearly the last minute.

Please, breathe!

We ended up having barely over a 50% attendance rate, but it still turned out beautifully.

Don't panic until the actual RSVP date has passed! You have plenty of time, and unfortunatly your wedding is only the most important thing in YOUR life, not everyone elses!! People are inconsiderate sometimes when things don't really involve them!

A lot of couples are only just sending invitations out at the two month mark. You have time - breathe!

Here’s what I learned via Wedding planning:

*People are not good at RSVP’ing.

*There will be some that do not reply.

*Some people will RSVP “yes” and not attend.

* You may have uninvited guests. Be prepared. (I had at least 3, even though my invitations and RSVP cards were deliberately, explicitly, and specifically detailed with the names of the actual invited parties).

However, your due date is mid-November.

Calm down!

I sent texts 2 weeks prior to and the week of my RSVP by date to those that I felt needed a reminder. My Cousins 2 Adult sons still didn’t bother to RSVP.

She told me to count them as a “No” since they couldn’t even let me know whether they planned to attend or not. So, I removed their names from my Seating Chart.

Congratulations and 🍀‼️

Oh, Whoosah and relax, relate, and release!!

People often wait until the last minute. You haven't hit your RSVP date. Many people view that date as the day they should drop the RSVP in the mail. A few days after your RSVP date passes, you can reach out to those who haven't RSVPed yet.

When we sent out our invites, I had a few early responders and then a huge lull with complete silence and then the rest came pouring in within a few days of the RSVP date. I ended up having to reach out to about 5 people (150 invited).

You have a couple weeks until your RSVP date, and, for many people, your RSVP date is way too early, so lots of guests may ignore it. Many people don't know their schedule so far in advance, especially for a date after the first of the year when many companies start their time-off calendars over.

Daughter got married last January, and invitations only went in the mail Thanksgiving week, with the RSVP on Christmas Day. On the due date (3 weeks before the wedding), all but 10 guests (3 households) had responded; overall, she had an 80% acceptance rate and zero no-shows. I think you're just going to have to be patient. Just because you wanted responses really early, does not mean you're going to get them. Hang in!

I wouldn't stress, people are naturally procrastinators lol I'm sure you'll get a lot more RSVPS in the next two weeks!

Breathe! You will get more before the deadline. Once the deadline date comes, wait two days and then call (not text or message) people to get their answer. Calling people makes it difficult for them to avoid you (lol) and you will get an instant and straight answer. Wait a few more days if you don;t hear from some, and then call one last time and say: "I have tried reaching out to you multiple times for your RSVP. If I don't hear back from you by noon tomorrow, I will have to mark you as "not attending" because our venue needs a final count by tomorrow at 5pm." Even if your final count isn't due the next day, it will create an urgency and force them to give you an answer! Good luck!

Your invitations went out very early and your RSVP deadline is also very early for a January 2020 wedding. With a couple of weeks until your deadline, I would not stress just yet. Some people maybe finalizing their plans for your wedding weekend and will RSVP last minute. I think that is the trend. We had a 98% acceptance rate, but we got probably 15%-20% of our RSVP’s back the week of the deadline. We sent our invitations out at the standard 6 week mark and asked for RSVP’s 2 weeks before the wedding.

How early did you send your invites out? Our invites went out 3 months before our wedding and our RSVP date was 1 month before. We still had to contact 61 people after our RSVP date passed. I probably wouldn't think to RSVP for a January wedding this early. November even seems early so I'd just plan on having to personally contact a lot of people.

Ok, just breathe, and try not to freak out. As I'm sure people have already said here, RSVP-ing is a dying art. Many people wait until the last minute to send theirs back, and even more of them do not ever send it back!! They just don't understand the importance of it. So, no, you're not going to have a historically low turn out. You'll just need to follow up with everyone who hasn't responded. I know this is a pain. But if you have help, it will go fast.

But first, you need to wait a bit. You're still 2 months out. Most RSVP deadlines are like a month out.

You said your deadline was mid November. So, you need to wait until the deadline passes, and then start contacting everyone you haven't heard from, to get a firm yes or no. Divide the list up between you and FH. Your FILs and your parents can help too, if some of the non-responders are family members, or people they know. The important thing is that you have an accurate head count.

Most people don't even send invitations until 2 months out. Your freaking out for no reason.

Most responses will come either immediately after receiving the invitation or at the deadline. Not sure why this is, but it’s the same for every event I’ve hosted in my life. So definitely not time to stress yet!

Some people are also just really awful at rsvp'ing. You're going to have to follow up