Venues trying to change our date or number of guest

I do think it’s not right of them to try to change your date if the one you want is available. As for the guest number, many venues do have a minimum number to meet for you to book that venue and that may change depending on what day of the week you choose. I know that as a Friday wedding we had a minimum of 125 instead of the higher number for a Saturday wedding.

View Quoted Comment I understand they have a minimum but don't try to tell me to change it and to change the date. I understand we are 3 years out but we trying to plan accordingly especially with my new transition with my new career and his.

I agree, the date is odd to change, but are they trying to make you change the day from a Saturday to a Friday or Sunday due to guest count? Because as previously posted, the majority of venues have a minimum, especially for Saturdays because that is the easiest day to accommodate higher guest counts. So if they are trying to make you change the actual month, yes, that's not okay being that far out. But if they are trying to get you to change from Saturday to another day, that is understandable.

Most venues don’t book 3 years in advance so that’s probably what you’re running into. Minimums on Saturday nights are pretty common so that will most likely be an issue you run into regardless of when your wedding is.

Do you have a contract? It should state the minimums for your date, if any. Also, there should be terms about their right (or lack of right) to change dates, use certain rooms, etc. with or without your approval. It sounds like someone messed up on their end allowing you to book on a date despite a minimum and are trying to force you to move due to their issue. Always stick to the contract, that's why we have them.

They’re probably trying to book up dates they have open now for one of two reasons; they don’t book three years out or they do not want to have to honor 2019 prices in 2022. If you have a contract signed, they have to honor what they signed for. This would also include the number of guests. Some places do have a minimum, and often are more strict with following the rules on a Saturday than a Friday or Sunday. While it’s annoying, they are a business and need to make money. I suggest figuring out why they’re trying to change your date or number, and go from there. But honestly for three years out I would wait at least another year to book someplace because you never know what will change by then (either in availability or what you want).

View Quoted Comment I understand some days of the week they have minimum requirements but don't try to suggest or tell me what day to move my wedding too.

That is a red flag to begin with, they don’t deserve to host your wedding with that type of manipulation! Don’t let anyone control what YOU AND YOUR FIANCÉ want. You will find the right venue who values your wants and needs

View Quoted Comment At least somebody understand my point of view! Thank you!!