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Devoted August 2020

Venue/rehearsal frustration

Lauren, on January 7, 2020 at 9:04 PM Posted in Planning 0 20
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So I decided to wait until the new year to ask my venue about rehearsal info, since our wedding is the end of May. I emailed yesterday and recieved this response, which essentially says that I wont know until 10 days before for sure. Which I don't think is customary, but she also seemed a little rude to make me feel like I'm crazy for wanting to plan a rehearsal dinner this early. Who plans that 10 days before?! I'm doing something casual but still, most of our party is from out of state! I'm so frustrated right now. So now I think we will have to skip an actual rehearsal at the venue because only 3 of the 10 bridal party would be able to attend on a Thursday. UGH. Idk what advice there is or if I just needed to vent. But thanks for reading and letting me get it out!Venue/rehearsal frustration 1


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Latest activity by Alycia, on January 8, 2020 at 10:38 AM
  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    My venue gave me the same answer that I wouldn't allow until 2 weeks before. I agree completely with your point of view that it is ridiculous to wait till that short of time to find out. So I was able to rent my venue the day before so I could have that guarantee of having a rehearsal and decorate my venue the day before. It was only way I could get the guarantee I probably am being irrational but I didnt want to deal with the anxiety of not knowing.
    I also agree the message seems very unprofessional and rude.
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  • Shelly
    Devoted January 2021
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    I’m sorry but this is very strange... misspelled words and all. Not at all a professional email. I’m getting married in May and they scheduled our rehearsal the day before as soon as I asked about it. I’m not talking about the dinner just a dress rehearsal for the ceremony. Our dinner will be somewhere else. I’ve never heard of people making floral and linen decisions 10 days before the wedding. If I were you I would see if you could meet earlier than 10 days prior.



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  • L
    Devoted August 2020
    Lauren ·
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    Thank you!! I feel a little better that someone else doesn't think I'm nuts! I'm glad you were able to figure that out! I don't think I have that option. We'll figure something out, but yes it creates so much stress and anxiety!
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  • Melissa
    Devoted May 2021
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    I was completely thrown off by the misspelled words in the email. Something I always notice and very unprofessional when running a business in my opinion. Don’t know what to say about only knowing 10 days before. I was just in a wedding where we had a couple months notice.
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    Savvy June 2020
    Beryl ·
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    Everything about that seems so odd, the spelling, the timing... Also I'd be so frustrated too, you are totally valid in your anxieties. I don't understand vendors sometimes. like How are we supposed to plan anything??? I'm sorry!

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  • Maddie
    Devoted October 2020
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    The misspelling made me cringe and I felt like they could of executed their response in a more professional way. However I believe when I spoke to my venue we would only know a few weeks aswell before our wedding if the rehearsal would be a Wednesday, Thursday or Friday because my venue does Friday, Saturday, & Sunday weddings. Our wedding is on a Saturday so if someone would book for a Friday or Sunday Wedding our rehearsal would be Wednesday or Thursday. But I totally understand your frustration because the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner are very important and take time to plan. I hope everything works out for you ❤️
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  • R
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    Rachel ·
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    Yep, this is pretty common. About a month out my venue confirmed we’d be having a Friday morning rehearsal for our Saturday 5:30pm ceremony. When we booked about 11 months out they told us Friday AM was likely, as they’ll usually book a wedding that Friday so our rehearsal had to happen and wrap up just before the Friday bride’s venue rental started (a certain # hours were included in the base price but any couple could add hours, for a fee, or start at a different time, hence why we had to wait to confirm).
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  • L
    Devoted August 2020
    Lauren ·
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    Yea that makes sense. I wish they were offering a Friday morning rehearsal. A month seems pretty reasonable, but 10 days is still ridiculous to me! Glad it worked out for you!
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  • M
    Expert October 2021
    Megan ·
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    I know this can be common with many busy venues (but definitely makes planning quite difficult and annoying--I'm sorry this is the case here), but the lack of professionalism from this email... astounding. I think I'd call them as a follow-up to confirm everything.


    On a personal note, I'd probably call them out on the misspellings and the lack of professionalism. This is a bonkers email to receive from a vendor/company.

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    Monica ·
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    The part I hated the most is “it is way too early for all of that” like Really?! All Of That? Not like you are asking to set up your venue a month ahead of time. That’s frustrating, im sorry. I have a day of coordinator who works for the church we are using for our ceremony and we have already talked about having our rehearsal either Thursday or Friday.
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    Devoted August 2020
    Lauren ·
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    That was the part that bothered me the most! I only asked about the rehearsal and when we would set a time to pick napkins/flowers, not ask to do it this month lol
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  • Lisa
    Expert October 2021
    Lisa ·
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    I think this is pretty standard. Our contract says we will know/schedule the rehearsal 30 days before our wedding date.
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  • Lauren
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    Lauren ·
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    One of my friends that got married this past July ran into the same issue. It’s, actually, more common than you’d think, although it does stink. She ended up just booking a private room at The Chop House for her rehearsal dinner because she didn’t want to risk not being able to do it at the venue.
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  • Rose
    Devoted August 2020
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    I specifically brought up rehearsals with venues before I booked. A ton of the venues said they host weddings Friday sat and Sunday and if you have a sat wedding and they book a Friday wedding then you don’t get the rehersal the day before. The venue I booked will only book one wedding and then maybe a small event like a shower in a weekend so a rehersal wouldn’t be an issue.
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  • Nicole
    Master September 2020
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    Yeah, I would not be satisfied with that email either. We actually scheduled our rehearsal on the same day that we signed our wedding contract a year and a half ago. Our rehearsal is the Thursday before the wedding since the venue schedules weddings on the Friday as well, so that seems pretty standard, but not knowing until 10 days before the wedding (and linens and flowers to boot!?) would not work for me.

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  • Dierdra
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    Dierdra ·
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    My venue let me discuss it and I have it held right now for the Friday before our Saturday wedding. I don't feel like it's right for them to say it's way too early. I am 11 months out and I have already had a meeting with my coordinator and have a final 1.5 months before. ( So I could establish what I needed to purchase and bring to the reception).

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    Master January 2015
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    The lack of professionalism in this email worries me. Hopefully they're much more accommodating during your final walkthrough before the wedding. I would just schedule your rehearsal somewhere else! Our venue as two weddings the weekend of our wedding so instead of trying to do it there, we're having our rehearsal/rehearsal dinner at our house Smiley smile

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    I think typically, this is pretty common for a lot of venues, but the lack of professionalism in that email worries me, like other pps have mentioned. Yikes.... all the best, my friendSmiley heart Smiley heart

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  • kymarmck
    Super March 2020
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    We are starting to plan our rehearsal dinner (not through our venue, we're having it at a local restaurant). I anticipate it being scheduled by the end of this month for the day before our wedding (so we'll have scheduled it 8 weeks in advance)!

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  • Alycia
    Expert September 2021
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    The opening line really got to me. You are trying to be organized, jeez.
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