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If you want a destination wedding have one. Usually those are smaller and more intimate anyway.

I think as you said it is both of your wedding and it's only one day and you should be allowed to be a little selfish. I know people that have done destinations for their weddings and they were not worried about whether if not people could afford to go. I would just make sure you give people plenty of notice however at the end of the day it's not your wedding rather it's also your fiance the wedding so really you both will need to compromise. Maybe the compromise can be that it's out of state but maybe not out of the country?

If you give people plenty of notice those that really want to come to your wedding will be there provided it’s affordable enough and they have time to save. We had a DE and had 53 people which was almost everyone we invited. It’s your day so do what you want.

You're not selfish. There could be a compromise there...maybe a destination that's not too far away?

You have to think about certain VIP guests and if you think they will be able to come. If you think they will have trouble swinging it financially or due to schedule or illness or age or whatever, be prepared for certain people to not be able to come or adapt your plan

It is more selfish and honestly that’s the whole point lol Only certain people will actually attend and if it’s that big of a deal, go out to dinner when you get back with everyone who didn’t go. They will pay for their own meal and less money out of y’all pockets.

It’s a know-your-crowd thing. We had a DW in our state (8 hours away though) and due to costs for us & our guests changed our invite list from 40 to 15 guests. Then we did a separate reception locally for 50 guests.


DWs are very expensive for guests. As a guest, I’ve skipped about 1/2 I’ve been invited to due to money. As a host, it’s typical to cover more for guests such as a welcome dinner, etc.

I mean the idea is kind of cool because it can be a vacation but at the same time I personally wanted local so that most people we wanted to invite could go

We're doing a destination wedding, but we extended the invitation to family and close friends. But, we are also have a local reception for everyone else to attend. We wanted a more intimate ceremony. We informed everyone 2 1/2 years in advance, so they had ample time to plan to go to Jamaica. I thought it would be a mini vacation with a wedding to boot. Those that want to go will be there and those that dont, wont.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I think that’s what I’ll do as well