Venue wars: me vs my family

Our parents did the same. They would say their venue choices were better than mine and what not.
Unless they're helping pay for it, they can shut it!
You're the one to make the choice. Go with what you want it's easy for everyone to have an opinion but at the end of the day yours is the one that matters. People will come to support you on your wedding day.

I also forgot to say a mantra I've been living by during this whole wedding planning: people are going to judge regardless so if that's gonna happen then you may as well have done what you want.
Whether or not you go with what someone else wants, people are still going to be opinionated and judgmental, so just do you
You'll be a lot happier knowing you went with what you wanted

Who is paying for the wedding? What are the main differences in venue?

I went through the same thing. I agree with Melle. I also decided to just choose what made me happy. At the end of the day it's our special day and we should be happy with our choices.

Even if they have offered to pay for it they shouldn’t bully you into making choices you want. Just be stern and remind them it is your guys’s wedding.

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Exactly this. I feel that if the family is paying, they can invite people, they can make requests, but they should never be bullying the couple into what they want them to do. This is about the couple celebrating their love, and that celebration of love should be done as seen fit by the couple who shares it.

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Me and my fiancé are paying for it ourselves. at least the venue part, we made an agreement with my parents. they would buy the dress and we would do the rest. I want a wedding on the coast but my grandmother and aunt think that no one will come because it is to far.

View Quoted Comment That’s the same mantra I’m using to approach my wedding. If it’s not gonna make my future husband and me happy then there’s no point in doing it.

If you are paying for it, you decide where it will be. If people don’t want to come because of the distance, that is their decision and not something you should worry about. The people that really care and want to share the day with you will make plans to be there.

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Exactly this. It is mind fricken boggling to me that parents think they can dictate where their grown adult child has their wedding! It shouldn't be about "who will/won't attend"

Like PPs mentioned, if they're not paying, they have no right to complain. It's not right for them to guilt-trip you! Pick the venue you and FS want!

Yep you can and should get married where and when you want. That's it, bottom line.

Family stuff sucks sometimes.