Venue Regret

Yes I have moments of regret bc there are tons of beautiful places in my area, and I’m following all of their IG and seeing beautiful set ups daily. But I remind myself that there were reasons I chose the venue we have, and I keep a picture of my venue on my phone to remind myself how pretty it is. So my regret is always very temporary.

Same as with dresses: If you like the one you have, really do, then stop looking in the hopes that something slightly different may be out there that you like better. You will make yourself and everyone else nuts, for nothing worthwhile. Put your effort into what you will do with this place.

I think regret of any kind in regards to the weddings is normal because you always see other options and you always what other things. At the end of the day does it really matter that much where you to get married as long as you to get married? I think that if the venue you feel is beautiful and you think will be great for pictures then that's what I mostly matters but it is understandable that you may have seen other venues or maybe felt that you should have looked at others and that's okay.

I think it’s normal to have, especially when other places start popping up seemingly right after you booked your venue. We booked our venue and then two days later we got an email from another venue saying we won their grand prize raffle. I thought for a minute maybe we should’ve waited, but honestly, the grand prize wouldn’t match what we were getting at our venue and how beautiful our venue is. Just remember the reasons you chose the venue and that those beautiful venues you are seeing may have been out of reach anyway!

I fell in love with the first place I visited on my venue tour. My mother was only in town for the weekend so we scheduled 15 venues in three days and after the first 6 I kept going back to the first one We visited and I decided to cancel the rest and just go back and put a deposit down on the one I fell in love with. The seventh venue I was supposed to visit is the one I sometimes wish that I went to go and see as I think it photographs better and the bridal suite is to die for. But I’m just a naturally picky person and I love grand events, evening gowns, extravagance and opulence in general. I would say my ballroom goes more with my theme (Great Gatsby/Old Hollywood) but the grand pianos and the grounds in general at the seventh venue are more to my taste. It’s natural to want to have the best experience and give your guest the best experience you can but I’m sure they will with what you initially choose. Just remember why you fell in love with it in the first place and that was really matters is marrying your best friend.

I think it is helpful to do your best not to look at the other choices although it is sure tempting when those stylized photos start popping up. You chose your venue for a reason. Your guests aren't going to know about your other choices and that it could have been at xyz venue. You made the right choice!

There is nothing wrong with getting married after 30, I do not understand your rush to get married. Nothing magical happens after 30. I just turned 35 and we will be engaged a year and a half by the time our June 2020 wedding comes around. We took our time looking at venues and all of our vendors, the long engagement has been wonderful. The only regret I had was my dress as I bought it too soon, I exchanged it for another one this past fall and love my new one. I guess as an "elderly bride" I would just offer the advice of taking your time and not rushing into things in the future.

It definitely happens- those feelings are valid. If there is generally nothing actually wrong with your venue, you should stick with it and try to shake those feelings off. I regret a lot of things sometimes and I overthink a lot, thinking about the invitations, dress, venue, certain individuals I've invited, food choices, etc. We just stress ourselves about all the things we should have done or could have done differently. Don't worry. Everything will be okay and your wedding will be beautiful

Why are you rushing to get married because you are “pushing 30”. You can get married after 30 just as easily as you can before 30. We got married when I was 32. We started dating before I was even 30, but I didn’t feel rushed to get married because of my age. We picked our venue and our wedding date based on what we loved and wanted in our wedding, not based on our ages.

View Quoted Comment I want to be done having kids by 35 and I want to be married before I have kids that is my main reason

I ended up actually changing my venue over venue regret lol. I lost some big money (to me lol), close to $2k and that was very hard to swallow - but I LOOOOVE my new place so much, I'm at peach and consider it totally worth it.

Like others have said, it's probably best to stop looking at other venues. Otherwise you'll drive yourself nuts! I love the place I picked, but sometimes I see other options and think "wow, that would be super cool!" But then I go back to where and why we are getting married where we are and move on.

We booked a venue and a month later I changed it. Had to change the date and lost our deposit but I was having so much regret. I almost had to pay half the food and beverage minimum (at which point, we would have cancelled our second venue and stuck with the first).

I think this is normal to feel. I feel like that all the time about stuff aha it’s because we can’t help but feel what if there was something better out there

Stop looking!!! You found a place. I know its tempting, but your going to drive yourself crazy.

I went to davids bridal after getting my dress to look for a bridesmaid dress for myself (my brother's wedding is three months after mine) and it was so HARD not to go back into the bridal section and hunt again.

If you have found your beautiful venue, and you were happy enough with it to put down a deposit already, why are you still looking at venues online????

This is just like when brides find their dream dress, and then they keep looking at dresses online, and pretty soon, they have dress regret.

Once you have found the one, QUIT LOOKING!!!

Think back to when you booked that venue. There must have been plenty of reasons you chose it at the time. Don't second guess yourself. Remember those reasons. The world is full of beautiful venues. Just because there are other beautiful venues out there, doesn't mean yours isn't good enough.