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Venue Dilemma

Michelle, on October 18, 2019 at 10:27 PM Posted in Planning 0 9

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So I have 2 potential venues.
1. A tea room. As u am obsessed with tea rooms this is my favorite and also my choice. I love that it is unconventional, non-traditional and also more me. But because it’s not a ballroom style there are issues with the layout. Among them are that the guest list is 90 (but we only expect 70) and the venue only fits 80. And there is no collective space for everyone. There is also no place to dance. Also everyone I asked hates it and thinks it’s weird.
2. A traditional all-inclusive ballroom. Space for dancing and everyone plus more: and room for all the traditional stuff even dancing. But it just wasn’t my first choice because I didn’t really want traditional. But I also want people to have fun and enjoy it.
Which should I choose?

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Latest activity by Becca, on October 20, 2019 at 2:07 PM

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Pirate & 60s Bride · on October 19, 2019 at 12:38 AM
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Why not a fabulous fancy brunch in the tea room? Who doesn’t love brunch!!! Then you can skip the dancing. Sounds like you love the tea room. 🌹

What does your fiancé want?
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Renee · on October 19, 2019 at 2:30 AM
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It depends on if you want to dance at your reception or not
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Mandee · on October 19, 2019 at 4:50 AM
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What does your FH want? It's his wedding too (although I know we get so caught up in what we dreamed of we forget, lol) and his opinion should matter the same as yours. If he wants the tea room too, then ya'll do that and adjust your guest list so you fit the venue restrictions. If you want dancing/group hangouts and the tea room can't make that work then you've got to figure out if those are must haves or not!
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Catherine · on October 19, 2019 at 6:32 AM
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Are those two the only two options you have? I’m not sure where you’re located but maybe there’s a venue option that is larger than the tea room but still unique and not as traditional as a ballroom. Like a museum or brewery or even a library? Me and my fiancé looked at sooo many places online before we chose ours and the one thing I noticed is that there are a million options out there that aren’t traditional ballrooms!
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Amanda · on October 19, 2019 at 7:01 AM
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I would totally opt for the tea room! When you have a smaller group in a more intimate space it makes the event seem larger and more intimate than in an over sized room you would need to fill with decor/things to take up space. It's ultimately up to you, is dancing that important to you and your FH? Is there space at all that could work for a small dance floor? Additionally, what time of day are you thinking for your wedding? Pirate and 60's Bride had a fantastic idea of a tea brunch wedding and I honestly think that sounds stellar!!! If y'all wanted to have the dance the night away event, you could always host a VIP section at a bar/club that night for you and your bridal party/guests who like to party that evening. Brunch wedding/tea reception/CHANGE or not/Dinner out/VIP party evening.
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Fleur · on October 19, 2019 at 8:42 AM
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As a wedding guest I want the drinking and dancing party atmosphere. However at the end of the day it’s your wedding so YOU should be happiest. (Can you have the rehearsal dinner or shower in the tea room?)
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Eri · on October 19, 2019 at 8:58 AM
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Would it be an option to do the wedding at the larger venue, and then have the rehearsal dinner or next-day brunch at the tea room?
Also love the idea of having your shower at a tea room!
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Michelle · on October 19, 2019 at 2:54 PM
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I come from a large Hispanic family. So for them dancing is a must. Lol.
I live in a very rural area so there are very very slim pickings. I have been everywhere within an hour of where I live.
I like the idea of doing some things at the tea room like maybe the rehearsal dinner.
I did want the wedding to be non-traditional. My FH doesn’t really care either way. Lol
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Becca · on October 20, 2019 at 2:07 PM
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If dancing is a must, you must dance haha. There are lots of ways to make a ballroom look more unique. Find the things you enjoy about the tea room, and maybe try to recreate it! Is it mix & match furniture or china? Is it the stacks of books, chandeliers, table cloths? There are lots of ways to make ANY space your own.
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