Venue change?? What would you do?

How much was the deposit? Personally, I'd change the venue if I was unhappy with it and just lose the deposit if it's feasible. It doesn't sound like you like the venue.

I considered it recently. The ceremony space is awesome and the reception space will be pretty with all the draping and uplighting. The prices are insane. It all started to add up and I freaked out and started looking at other options. After weighing the deposit I would lose and the vendor pricing that would change I decided it wasn't worth it. Can we see the space decorated for another wedding?

We changed our venue, it wasn't a huge financial decision since we'd only put $50 down and the new place is only asking for a donation. It was a good decision for us, the original venue was small and we'd have to use the same space for the reception as the ceremony and I just couldn't get over the stress of it. I'm really glad we changed.

OG Dianna it was $2,000... a lot of money! ?? But still not as much as we're going to put in altogether. I feel like if I'm going to change it would have to be now, before we start booking vendors- after that, I know it will be too late and we'd lose even more money. I wish I'd thought about this a little more before jumping the gun on the venue. Also, I don't want to disappoint my parents since this is the venue they wanted me to pick. So maybe I just need to suck it up. :-/

I haven't put a deposit down but I definitely understand the having to chose a venue that isn't the one you dreamed of. My fiancé and I fell in love with two venues, but both ended up being set aside. One was out of our budget and the other was only available after 8pm. The restaurant we're going to for our reception is only open until 10pm so that venue was out too. We found another venue that we both like, it's just not ideal. I'm trying to let it go but it's tough sometimes. Not really advice I guess, just commiserating. The only thing that's making me feel better is being able to focus on nicer details for the reception.

Change it. If the deposit isn't that painful in the overall scheme of your budget I think you should go with the one you're sighing over. You will always have a slight twinge about it. The venue is a huge part of your atmosphere, look, and style you want. I still get a twinge of sigh regret that I didn't get a few signs I wanted for decor. I downloaded them, just ran out of time to get them done. The print outs are sitting on my desk, every time I see them I think "crap! I wish I could have used those!They're so cool/pretty/perfect."

I changed my venue, and lost half of the money for it. We were originally going to get married in 2018, so we found a venue that we loved but it was really pricy. We ended up being able to get married in 2017 instead but we had to cut our budget down in order to do that. (The original venue was more than what our whole wedding will cost now) So I switched venues because I decided I would rather be married to him earlier than have that specific venue. Instead we found one that we loved but was at a better price point.

I think you should go for the one that you really love, otherwise you'll always feel like you missed out IMO.

We changed our venue but that's because we changed everything lol. We were going to have a huge wedding at a historical Long Island mansion with 120 guests on May 19, 2017 but we decided to have an intimate wedding instead at an industrial space in Long Island City with 30 guests.

We changed our venue a couple months after we booked it. It was turning into a lot more work and stress than we wanted, and when I took my mom and grandma to go see it, I just wasn't feeling it. No excitement at all, I just felt crappy thinking of all the stuff to be done.

We only lost half of the deposit ($175) so it really wasn't a big deal. Before you break your current contract make sure the venue you want is still available on the same date if that's important to you!

Change it if you really feel this way! It sucks to lose out on a deposit but if you're not happy, it's worth it!

Mrs. Richmond that's exactly how I've been feeling! I'm glad I'm not the only one! Excellent advice and I'm glad you were able to get what you want!

We planned on having our reception at a historical home a block from the church we are getting married in. We changed our reception venue 3 weeks before the wedding. The guest list had grown and we needed to have part of the reception inside and part outside. The forecast started calling for rain. We decided to move the reception to the church's fellowship hall. Everyone will be inside and together. We can't get a refund unless they can find another person to book it. We will probably just use the house to get ready in and take some individual pictures before the wedding. Might as well get something for the money we put down. $600

Maybe you can host your shower (whoever is hosting it) or rehearsal dinner at that venue, see if you can switch the deposit to a different date and have it count toward that. Then you won't be out the full 2000 and can book the venue you want.