Venue being difficult

We’re getting married in Newnan and we waited until our venue told us we had to cancel or reschedule, that was about 30 days out. We were able to transfer all our vendors to our new date and didn’t pay a fee bc it was the venue’s decision not ours. I would wait to see how things play out and maybe their rules change.

I would wait to see if your venue makes you reschedule instead because that may get you a better deal and maybe not have to pay the extra $1000. I would send out invites to guests with na little insert explaining that due to COVID restrictions, plans may change. I would also look at eloping a little closer. Some places are opening back up this month, but many will have to close down again if they have a resurgence of the virus, which I anticipate will happen in many areas that are reopening too soon. If that's the case, they closed many public places and hotels here. You may want to check what current restrictions are in the place you want to elope at just in case they're put back into effect. Some places are currently requiring masks, so you have to consider where and who would marry you if still under restrictions. Then there's the question about if you'll need to self-quarantine for 2 weeks when you get back. Though many states may only make it a suggestion, a workplace may decide that if you traveled then they don't want you back until after a two week quarantine. Some jobs will pay for that quarantine and some won't.

I would say like you mention if ypu can change your date do so why not...it goves you more time to plan. If they the venue give you the hassle ill say do what u feel will work out such as eloping for this year and maybe next year celebrating....legally with that contract they habe to give you ur money back bc it states that. The new contract has nothing to do with what agreement u have..

I would wait. My friends wedding got moved out to July. July seems more promising. Wait it out till they don’t have a choice but to reschedule you a later date so you don’t sign anything new or pay 1k

View Quoted Comment Yeah we are thinking about waiting. The only problem would be that if we wait we might not have good options for dates next year because a lot of people are rescheduling. All the March-May wedding have to reschedule. There could be a government order saying no gathering in July but we don’t know. Ga has been opening up everything. Many guest have already told me they are worried about coming. Half my bridal party and all of thr grooms men are coming from out of town. Either way, I don’t think I want to go forward in July with half my guest and bridal not coming.

View Quoted Comment The issue is that even if things are open in July people seem to still be worried about comings. Things aren’t opening up because numbers are down. I think people are just willing to see that happens. My fear is that someone gets sick from coming to my wedding so either way we want to postpone it cancel just not sure how yet

I think you concerns are completely valid A'Nia! Even if things are relatively open for you locally, there may still be social distancing measures in place and it's also smart to consider your guests comfort level in attending!

I would run the numbers again - but it might be worth postponing right now and giving yourself a little time to see if you still want to elope or would rather plan for next July. If I'm reading your post correctly you'd lose your 4k of deposits if you cancel right now and elope, but for 1k you can postpone your wedding date and not loose much more if you decide to cancel? (Or is there a different amount that would be 50% of food & bev?) Definitely check out the costs to see if you can literally afford to buy yourself more time!