Venue Alcohol Policy

Get 2-3 kegs, all different beer, and 2 cases of wine. Don't make your guest bring their own drinks, very rude to do so.

You need to supply the beer and wine. Your guests shouldn't have to bring their own. You're the host. Geez.

Where I'm from, it's common and half the stuff that's said on here that's "rude" is the norm.

Probably about 75 guests who are of age.

Weddings are not BYOB. You need to supply the alcohol for your guests.

Do you have a wedding website that you can put that info on? Or just do word of mouth. I'd provide more alcohol than just the one keg though so anything that guests WANT to bring is just extra on top of what should be enough to provide to guests free.

I am just picturing a wedding invitation that says "BYOB but make sure you put it in the trough". Classy!

Sorry OP but according to your post, you made it clear that your venue is not the problem here. You admitted that they require all alcohol to be in a "trough." This seems clear that you should be attempting to prevent your guests from BYOBing drinks that they pour themselves.

I don't see why there is any question in your mind why you alone shouldn't be buying multiple kegs and some boxes of wine. Your venue does not allow guests to drink out of flasks or bottles in their purse by your own admittance; therefore, BYOB is not even an option for you if you ignore the rudeness to your guests.

Does the venue specify the guests have to bring the alcohol? As in you are not allowed to provide? That doesn't seem to make much sense. If it just means that beer and wine have to be brought in, then you should bring it. Then you have control over quality and amount. That should be covered in your budget.

You fill the "trough" as the hosts. Your guestS are not responsible for providing the alcohol.

Our venue has a relaxed alcohol policy as well. We are supplying beer and wine for our guests but are passing along the message that guests are welcome to bring their favorite beer or wine to share. But we are just telling our closest friends and relatives and not posting it anywhere. You could put a little blurb on your wedding website but I wouldn't include it on the invitation.

Just because it's "the norm" doesn't mean it's not rude.

Think of how excited everyone will be when your wedding breaks the mold. You'll be talked about (in a great way!) for years.

If it really is normal where you are for everyone to bring alcohol, you wouldn't need to tell them anything because they will do it anyway. There is not a polite way to tell people to bring alcohol to stock your bar. Unless they specifically ask or insist that there has to be a specific wine or beer, I wouldn't mention it.

Just buy the alcohol yourself. Don't make people bring their own. Especially when they then have to share it with everyone else.

This is just so funny to me for some reason, my family would be so mean about the whole BYOB and never let me live this down!

This makes zero sense.

Supply beer and wine. Don't make your guests BYOB's.

Where is this planet? Because I have never heard of this.

Out of curiosity I looked up how many people a keg would supply and I guess if it's a half barrel keg, that's actually plenty. OP did say she's getting at LEAST one keg. Is the BYOB purely just extra booze then to satisfy preferences? I can't tell if you're supplying less beer than the recommended amount.

Not all will drink and she said AT LEAST one keg.

Dude, ain't my fuckin wedding and I'm giving OP the benefit of the doubt that she'll get more than one keg after these suggestions. Two kegs. Problem solved.

OP I understand where you're coming from!

I think what she is trying to ask is how to let guests know that the drinks they bring have to go into a community bucket. The question isn't how to ask them to BYOB the question is how to let them know that it's not going to be just for them. I come from the same type of area. Host provides around 75% of the alcohol and you bring something for yourself so you're not drinking all their booze. It's considered rude when you don't show up with something for yourself to drink.