Venting...with class 😏😒😅

You sound like me! I would have been happy with a backyard wedding, HE wanted the big wedding. He's has "helped", but his "help" has made things harder. He rented the hall, but didn't ask what type of tables they have, do we have to set up, anything about it. Another thing on my list. He went and got his tux without me to "surprise" me....didn't get the tux number, type, name....so I had a heck of a time letting his guys know details. Mostly he just shrugs and says it's whatever "I" want...until it's something he wants then it's a "must" have. It's frustrating. I don't drive because I have a visual issue, so finding ways to get places to take care of stuff is really hard. It's almost over...Wedding is this Saturday. He says he'll be at the community center setting up...but I may end up doing that to...he'll probably forget to add an aisle lol

Well first of all, props on getting half of your save the dates out already. My wedding is in April and I don't even have mine yet. The planning is a struggle. My FH likes to help by reminding me about things we need to do (but not offering or taking initiative to do any of them) and telling me that we've already spent too much money. He went to talk to the florist at the store he works at the other day (helpful right?) and then came home and said they can get eucalyptus and do other stuff, but you need to go back and talk to them because I didn't know what to ask (still helpful, but much less so). I know about 3 or 4 women I work with who started planning a wedding and then gave up and eloped a couple months in. I never understood why, but I do now lol.

Now for the positive vibes! I'm not going to tell you that you have time and to not stress too much, because I hate when people tell me that. But you got this! You're planning a wedding AND eating well AND exercising AND managing stress. That's goals. I imagine that the struggle of the planning beforehand is what helps make the day so much better? Either way you get a special day at the end of all this to celebrate and its going to be great no matter how it turns out. Take a step back from planning (if its important to him to have some of these things then he can do something make sure it happens). You're doing what you can and you're doing great!

I've been pretty much planning our wedding solo. I have given him tasks-deciding on what kind of ring he wants, what he wants the guys dressed in...things of that nature. We are still fighting about the guest list because he keeps dragging his feet. I gave him until the end of this month to get his side figured out because anyone not on the list by Halloween is out of luck. I've found that choices (do you like this or that) helps out because he isn't as creative as I am and doesn't see the end result of our vision the way I do. We've discussed the basics of what we want so I know I'm not going way far off from the original idea but dropping it down to only a couple of choices instead of all the details has helped get him involved a little more. Also...give deadlines. I told FH that if he has a particular feeling towards something he needs to speak up because after the millionth time of asking him and him saying "yeah whatever" I stop asking. But limited choices and deadlines typically work for my FH.

Keep your head up. It's hard but it will be worth it.

That really sucks, i'm sorry!! I'd just tell him that it's his wedding and marriage too and if he doesn't provide you with addresses or figure out a way to get them, then sorry - his people don't get invited.

I'm so sorry. Most say that the guys don't enjoy planning that much, but if he's the one that pushed for the traditional wedding he should definitely be helping. I agree with pp's, i've found with my fiancee that coming to him with my "top 3" of whatever I'm working on and then having him pick is the best method to keep him included.