Venting... so tired of wedding problems

Just venting. FH and I have just had no end, it seems, to problems relating to ourselves, people we love, and the wedding. We've been together for 9 years, we've really been so excited for this engagement time and I just am so done (with wedding). I feel like what should have been the happiest, most exciting time, planning my dream wedding has just been hell.



We get married in 11 days. In the last 4 months:- FH had emergency surgery and has had non-stop digestive issues ever since- My mom has had numerous medical issues come up. Although she is currently allowed to fly, we had to fully go through the emotional process of planning for her to not be there. Beyond that, she can travel but basically can no longer walk and is in agony the whole time- My handicapped brother had emergency surgery - My MOH developed a severe clotting disorder and isn't allowed to fly, so she can't come- After hounding our coordinator to confirm the cleaning service for our rental property for 14 months (where everyone is getting ready for the wedding, and where our rehearsal dinner and brunch will be), we were told last week that they never got around to it, the company is now booked, and the groundskeeper/caretaker will do it herself. - She (groundskeeper) is also setting up our entire wedding, per our contract, and just let us know that she is also doing a second wedding the same day- Several very close friends have gone through very large personal events and can't come now- FILs are awful... which isn't new, but they are super unhelpful/argumentative and often trying to start fights- We lost our hotel block due to really odd policy changes- We had to scramble to help friends and family re-find accommodation after hotel incident and the entire island of Oahu basically outlawing Airbnbs 6 months ago- My family bad talked me at Christmas regarding the wedding being out of state, too fancy, etc.- Most of the wedding party just assumed we would be handling all transportation to/from the airport. We are staying an hour away. They fly in every 2-4 hrs over the course of 2 days. They also leave every 2-4 hours over the final 36hrs of our stay. So they're now coming to us to solve this for them because uber is insanely expensive and they didn't want to rent cars (we paid half their accommodation and are providing all wedding day transportation). - Several people couldn't make it due to damage from the recent volcano in the Phillipines, which nearly stranded 2 of our wedding party (made for a very tense 2 weeks)- 1 of my bms may not have a dress still. After ghosting me for an entire month she does spontaneously have a flight now- FH may not have a driver's license when we get there (he had to get replacement) and we need to rent cars- Every time we need responses from our coordinator or most vendors it takes 1-3 weeks. This has been constant since the beginning, and is continuing to be infuriating - Rental company "forgot about" several things in our contract, including our tent- Bakery where we were ordering desserts for rehearsal dinner told us today, when we called as directed to place order (they instructed us a month ago) is closed all next week- The road between our ceremony and reception is under significant construction, doubling our commute time to and from, which is potentially costing us 1.5 of the only 2 hrs we had for photos
Also, I'm in grad school. O.o.
Thanks for letting me vent! I hope other people are having a better time of things!