Venting session

Agreed. Everyone gets really opinionated when it comes to weddings.

View Quoted Comment I’m at the point of wanting to be like “then don’t come”.

I totally agree, it’s really frustrating. The best way I dealt with it is just to pick your battles. Like of course it’s your day and you should do what you want and not have to take other peoples opinions into account... but sometimes honestly on certain things it’s easier to just give into and let other people do what they want, especially when it won’t affect you all that much. Everything always seems much bigger and more important when it’s your own wedding but a lot of the things that you feel like you’re unwilling to compromise on end up just not seeming like a big deal in hindsight and you’re like wait why did I waste so much time/stress fighting so-and-so on that, it wasn’t worth the energy that went into it 🤔 Not sure what specific things you are referring to though so it’s hard to tell if it’s one of those times or not!

View Quoted Comment I agree, the thing is it’s like EVERY DAY from SOMEONE ELSE. Just when I think it’s over I get another one. Right now, my fiancé’s step mother always has something.. with her I forgive and don’t pick a battle (many things going on with her). My MOH lately has had every opinion in the world and she is usually someone who helps me but the past week everyday she has had some comment or opinion and I just want things the way I want them...

How super annoying! 1) Maybe say things like “that sounds great for your wedding, not really our style.” And/or 2) Stop sharing details. No details, no comments from the peanut gallery.

Someone ALWAYS throws drama at couples getting married.

Honestly, it says far more about them than about you. We made a concerted effort to deal with the emotions of said drama at home, and then put them in a corner and move on. We refused to respond to the immaturity with matching energy. It was *HARD*, I cannot lie.

But, oh... when we were able to get through the wedding day itself with no drama... bliss.

And then later I found out that the people throwing drama? Yeah, people saw it. (And when the people throwing drama were my mother and my SIL... yep, the people who saw it are on my side... including MIL.)

It's SO hard.

Feel free to scream into pillows.

View Quoted Comment Luckily now that we’re in quarantine it’s not as bad 😂

I just stopped offering any information. When they ask how the planning is going I just say “good”. If they ask what I’m doing for this or that I just say “ me and FH are going to decide soon” even though it was decided a year ago. If they offer suggestions I just say “oh wow that sounds nice” and try to steer the conversation away from the wedding. I booked my venue 19 months from my date and had my invitations/std/rsvp everything made that same month. When anyone at work would ask and I told them how far the date was and how much I had done already some would have snide remarks. One of my friends told me that there was gossip that I wasn’t really getting married, how I could possibly have this done already and that my ring was fake, they’ve never heard of my venue etc. One day I was talking to another coworker (male) who is also getting married next year ( some of the girls who were talking about me were present) and he asked me where I was getting married because he just found a venue and when I told him he said “ omg that’s fifteen minutes from my house I heard it very beautiful I just didn’t want to get married so close to home” the looks on their faces were priceless. Then he asked about invitations and I showed him mine but I had to scroll through like a thousand pictures to find it he commented “wait so you got your invitations made last year” and I told him yes and how important it is to get things done early so you have less stress and your pick of vendors. Needless to say all the gossip about my “no wedding and fake ring” has died down. People will always have something negative to say and that’s just because they’re unhappy and want you to be unhappy too. Don’t let anyone steal your joy.

View Quoted Comment LOL OMG that’s savage 😂😂 the looks on their faces must have been priceless!! Gotta love moments like that! I’m going to start doing it but then I won’t have anyone to talk to about it it seems but oh well! I don’t want to deal with it anymore!

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Such a perfect response! I am always amazed by people sometimes!

View Quoted Comment I know right?!

Hang in there Danielle! I have found that with some people drama IS their lives. My future MIL is one of those along with my FH twin sister. There was some drama earlier this year and I got thrown under the bus. I remarked to my FH that hey, I feel like family cause she throws everyone under the bus LOL.

View Quoted Comment Hahahaha I totally get that! Like I hate being brought into things but then again I’m accepted because that’s what you do with the rest of the family! I’m experiencing that now as well

I agree completely! I’ve gotten to the point where I’m just planning for me and my FH and ignoring others opinions. If someone has something to say about it, I just brush them off because it’s not about them. In the end I’ll be celebrating with my FH and that’s all that matters. You definitely shouldn’t have to plan two weddings because of that. I’m so sorry. 😕 Hang in there!

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry is it possible to just tell her less about what’s going on with the planning?

View Quoted Comment I’m going to try to just not mention anything anymore... I love her to death but lately it’s been a little over the top for me