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W-K
Super October 2019

Venting a bit- irritated with my church

W-K, on August 21, 2019 at 2:08 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 12

Just venting a little bit. I LOVE my church. But I go to a large church that feels very disjointed sometimes. Like they're so big they have no reason to be this disorganized. I've attended this church since I was like 13 and became a member last year since moving back to the area. My mom and two of my sisters are also members. My sister was married at this church. We are all actively involved in the goings on. We originally set a date in November to get married, reserved the space. We ended up needing to change things to October. We are going to do a walk in chapel near the courthouse if all else fails but darn it I want to get married in the church I grow up in. And NO ONE IS CALLING ME BAAACCCKKKK. No one seems to know the requirements of what needs to be done to get married there. The secretary said we could get an exception for going to the marriage 101 class due to our personal issues since we are attending one on one counseling but the pastor isn't responding to phone calls or an email. I'm having FH call them instead since they somehow respond better to him. Not sure why but it's so frustrating because I hate calling people to begin with and then being forgotten is ugh.

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Latest activity by W-K, on October 27, 2019 at 8:17 PM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I feel ya. The church I got married in initially is a large church made of multiple congregations that share the space due to it being a church with multiple buildings and such. Anyway, the head pastor of the entire church was the person i had to deal with and HE WAS THE MOST UNRESPONSIVE PERSON EVER. He realized it though because he shifted the reigns over to a church elder who took over and she was great. So maybe you can ask if there's a specific person who is more responsive that you can deal with?
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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    Yeah they have you deal with the secretary but the secretary is non responsive so we emailed the pastor months ago about doing an exception since he's the one who has to approve it anyway and no response. They have one person "in charge" of the reserving of rooms but they have nothing to do with anything else. It's really disjointed and I feel like I'm running down like five different people for one question.

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    I wonder if it's a church thing. I tried so hard to get a church for the wedding, but so many never bothered to return my phone calls

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    That would really frustrate me too! Sadly seems it's time to go to Plan B

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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    Could be a church thing. I remember calling the local parish when my ex’s dad was dying asking for his last rights. Same thing, had to call the diocese to get any call backs.
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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    It’s looking that way. I just have to convince myself the backup is ok lol
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    I had that happen when looking for one for a funeral too. We had a couple of churches call back fast for the wedding, but those were the ones that wanted to charge hundreds of dollars for non members to get married

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  • Ellissa
    Savvy October 2021
    Ellissa ·
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    RUN AWAY! I know getting married in the church you grew up in sounds lovely but I always think it's a red flag when someone doesn't respond to you in a timely manner. You want people you can rely on for your big day. And the fact that they respond to your FH faster than they respond to you sounds so disrespectful.

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  • M
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Megan ·
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    Currently dealing with this...but I'm having 2 church ceremonies in 2 different states. It's been a nightmare. They never reply! It took me 2 months to set up a meeting with the first priest. I'm a month in trying to get a meeting at the second church. And you wonder why people don't get married in churches anymore..................

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  • Renee
    Super October 2020
    Renee ·
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    I actually had this same problem with my last wedding. They wouldn't respond to calls or emails. We took one of the premarital classes but never finished them bc we could reschedule it. We actually ended up just doing pictures at the church and having the ceremony at the reception hall

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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    I had reached out for premarital counseling at the church and the people who reached back to me were prey judgmental. We ended up going with another elder couple who offered it to us. We did end up getting married at our church and I’m very very glad we did.
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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    We ended up having to go in during office hours and approaching one of the top pastors to get anything done. I had my now husband do it and set up a meeting. It turned out good. I just think my church is so big that things get lost in the shuffle.
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