Veil over face???

Have you spoken to him about It? Maybe you can compromise?

He won't talk to me about dress and stuff. He wants to be surprised! But for months has been saying this and that, sweet stuff, his thoughts! But it's nothing that I want or already picked and brought.

He will not be disappointed. Mine said the same thing. I think It is just what men have seen and so thats what they think they do. Most men do not know much about weddings. I just told my FH that I will have a veil but it doesnt go over my face. He was actually pretty happy, one less thing he was nervous about messing up. Talk to him, if it is something he really wants then wear one. If he doesnt care, your in the clear.

You should talk to him because It's kind of mean to not tell him and surprise him in a negative way. I'm sure he'll be so caught up in the moment that he won't realize the veil isn't there and won't care but you should still talk to him about it.

My FH really wanted me to wear gloves so I tried them on and it looked terrible. I work out a lot so I have big arms and the gloves gave me popeye arms. I explained to him it looked bad so I'm not going to do it so he's not disappointed day of. It doesn't stop him complaining every now and then which I find annoying but I remind him why I'm not wearing them so at at least he's prepared.

If you can find a comprise that'd be ideal.

I'm wearing a veil, I just don't want it over my face!!

I'm going to bet this is just something he was saying because he's seen it done that way on TV or in other weddings before and is just how he pictures it, not because it's what he actually really wants. Wear your veil the way you are comfortable and he will think you are beautiful no matter what! There's no way he'll be disappointed.

View Quoted Comment Awww, thank you, I'm so concerned. But I really don't want it over my face, but wear it for him!

My FH is on the other side. He told me he can't imagine me wearing a veil and that he's not expecting me to get one. When I went dress shopping, he goes "did they put a veil on you? Did you hate it?" Then we laughed about it cause I did hate it 😂
You should talk to him. Wedding is about compromising, but you can't force his ideas on yourself and let that ruin how you feel. ❤

I actually I'm falling in love with my veil, but my dress is in alterations and haven't seen it all together. So it may go, but wanting to wear it for him. But not over my face!!!

Could you do a first look, and let him lift the veil and kiss you then?
Or could you walk down the isle with it covering your face, and him lift the veil when you reach the alter? He would still get to lift the veil during your ceremony, and your face would still be uncovered for the ceremony.

No first look, he doesn't want that. I don't want to do that!! I'm going to talk with him when he gets home from work and see his thoughts,, just don't know how to start convo

This is a tough situation because this is as much his wedding as yours. You should definitely talk to him and see if there is a way you both can be happy.

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But is she making demands about what he wears? It's both of their weddings, but if he makes a lot of demands about what she wears / acts like he will be disappointed if she doesn't do what he wants, while she doesn't act that way about what he wears, then that isn't fair... I think in many cases, everyone has an opinion about what the woman should wear and the woman is expected to meet everyone's preferences (at the expense of what she wants), while the guy does not have those same pressures.

Yeah I think it’s a weird tradition and kind of symbolizes a transfer of ownership between the father and the groom beyond just the father escorting the bride down the aisle. I’m not doing it haha.

I've been told it's called a blusher. Weird name for it. I was going to but I am very very pale and it made me look like the walking dead. Decided defiantly not.

I had a drop veil, so it was over my face, but actually had my mom lift and smooth it back at the end of the aisle before the ceremony started. (One of the original superstitions for wearing a veil was to confuse evil spirits and I kinda liked that so I did it.) However, I do think this is an intensly personal decision, and while it is his wedding as well, only you get the final say in anything you wear, so you need yo do what will make you comfortable.