Vegetarian wedding ? help!

I agree with Elizabeth, if someone doesn't believe in alcohol it is proper to give alcohol to guests for their comfort. That it's one meal doesn't fly on ww for alcohol.

Please don't listen to people who say that you "need" to offer a meat option. They wouldn't tell an Orthodox Jewish couple that they need to have non-kosher options.

@snowqueen have you never had pasta or pizza for dinner ? Or Alfredo ? Eggplant parmasean ? You wouldnt go and have ONE non meat meal ? I'm having a hard time believing that

I personally wouldn't care if there wasn't a meat option, as long as the food was good and there was plenty of it. You wouldn't expect pork to be served at a Muslim wedding, so I don't think it's wrong to assume there wouldn't be meat at a vegetarian wedding. To me, I would never expect a host to go against their beliefs for me. That's just my opinion!

@LauraM yesssssssssss so glad someone gets it ! Thank you ! Xoxo

I personally would be fine with all vegetarian food, but some of your guest may not be.

A fair compromise may be to find a caterer that will let you supply the meat, and then source it from a local, ethical farm. A vegetarian friend of mine offered roast pork from a farm where the pigs spend every day relaxing in the sun until they are painlessly slaughtered in their familiar pens by people they know and trust. There is not a single moment of fear or pain for them.

Considering that the meat industry isn't going away any time soon, maybe supporting such alternatives to traditional meat sources is just as ethical a choice as vegetarianism.

@erica k I have gone one meal but I put three meats on my Pizza, put sausage in my lasagna and meat sauce on my pasta. I don't fine most vegitarian options satisfying. That is me.

No, you do not "need" to offer a meat option. That is no true. You would not be doing anything wrong etiquette-wise by serving a vegetarian meal as long as you have enough food to make up a meal that is tasty and filling, and you are providing enough options that most people can find something they enjoy. No one should be forced to go against their moral beliefs to satisfy others' preferences.

The role of host requires that you provide enough food to make up a meal, not accommodate every preference. You get to choose what that meal is.

I think it's fine no meat in my opinion ppl will always complain do your best without breaking your own boundaries

Now that I've read all the responses, I'm confused why you posted this. You don't seem torn at all; it seem like you know exactly what you want to do.

I think with the right caterer and meal choices, very few people would care that there isn't meat. My best friend is Hindu and doesn't eat meat, she had a 3 day wedding with well over 150 guests. We were all very well fed and satisfied, and even my FH, who doesn't believe in a meal without meat, said he didn't even notice there wasn't meat.

I went to a friend's wedding that was vegetarian and it was delicious! It is your wedding and as long as you make it clear that the options are all vegetarian, your guests won't be surprised! If you have strong feelings about it, you don't want to be thinking about it at all on your big day.

Just my 2 cents!

@delfina ... You are right I know what I want to do. But a lot of family is telling me otherwise and I wanted advice to whether people think it is rude or not and if they've ever hosted/been to a.Wedding with no meat and how their experience was . I am torn because even though I feel a certain way I'm unsure of how many will agree with me . I don't want to upset the wholeeeeee wedding lol

Curious OP, as you are presenting this as an issue of morality, wouldnt you be equally against all animal products (i.e., be a vegan) if you had issues with the meat industry due to the harm it causes animals. Animals products, such as the mass production of eggs and milk, causes just as much harm to animals as does the meat industry.

@beachdreams I agree one day I hope to be vegan . I already find such limited options so I know it would be a extreme challenge. I feel the sacrifices I make everyday are better then none at all... It is a process

Here's the thing, it the options are recognizable, delicious, and filling you can probably get away with it. Although, I think of someone like my mom who eats meat scarcely but does not eat pasta or rice. What would someone like her be served? In the case of a vegetarian pasta or rice dish, she would choose the chicken. Just something to think about. Just as you have vegetarian options, others should have an option as well.

I can respect that, Erica.

I wouldn't mind no meat, but my FH will not attend a vegetarian event without acting like a spoiled child. He hates anything vegetable related (were working on it lol). I think you should provide the option. It's rude not to.

Eh. I'm happy with no a no meat option. When done right, it can be just as filling and delicious as a meat alternative. I say go for it but just keep in mind that there's always going to be someone who might complain about not having a meat alternative.

Personally, I don't think I would notice but some of your guests might. You mentioned that you were upset when people didn't have a vegetarian option at their receptions so wouldn't you be doing that exact same thing to your meat eating guests? Although some may not care, I would have one option for the people that did. Just a thought.