Vaccine debate

What do you want? Personally, if you're going to be outside I think they're fine. Maybe you can provide masks for all guests if they choose to wear them, I think that's a decent compromise. Did they get tested to come to your shower?

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I like that idea. In general, I think that I'll likely provide masks and sanitizer for all attending. And they did get tested!

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Especially if they were willing to get tested and it came back negative I'd say they should be just fine. I understand your mom's concern, but like you mentioned now is a little too late to suddenly uninvite them. Now, if they didn't want to get tested and they were coughing all over then I'd understand telling them they can't come lol.

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My thoughts exactly! Thank you for the advice!

I do think that its rude, especially if they already made plans to attend and its such short notice.

It would be a little rude to uninvite them when it's already so soon, but because of COVID it definitely makes it harder. It's up to you though as the bride at the end of the day. If you are very concerned when it comes to COVID then do what you think is best. But if you are providing sanitation stations around (sanitizers and facial masks) then you should be okay. Maybe just send out a quick text message (one that you can copy and paste) stating that due to COVID you are requesting for your guests to wear masks, check their temperatures if possible beforehand, make sure they are not experiencing certain symptoms (you can list them), etc. just for the safety of everyone that will be attending.

Vaccinated carry just as much viral load in their nose as unvaccinated. Just saying….would you have guest get tested for strep throat if they weren’t sick? Just playing devil’s advocate. Enjoy your shower and stop worrying about a virus the media is hyping up.

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The devil needs no advocates, and nor does the OP.

The people who are most dangerous to others are the ones who are both vaccine- and precaution-resistant (e.g., the won't wear masks or social distance, and refuse the vaccine when available). It sounds like the people in question do take the necessary precautions, so they will be safe enough guests at your outdoor party.

I wouldn't uninvite them but I would ask them to please wear their masks and give other guests some distance. Masking for everyone in indoor spaces is a good idea at present, thanks to Delta, so it wouldn't hurt to provide masks for all guests if they need to go inside to use the restroom, get food, etc.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this and think the “reminder” message is a great idea!

It's rude for her to suggest that. It's outside and people are taking precautions.

Nope, I don't think it's rude at all. This delta variant is serious and the situation is constantly changing. Things weren't the same as they were a few weeks ago! The hosts of my shower are also only allowing vaccinated guests to attend, even though it's entirely outdoors. But another idea would be to ask them to provide a negative Covid test instead. That might be a good compromise

I understand your mother’s concern especially with this new variant. Ask your guest to please do a rapid test the day before or the morning of your event and continue with the social distance and mask. Have fun

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Exactly. If this is the case she needs to have everyone take a test the day before... because the viral load/passing ability is the same in vaccinated and unvaccinated. The unvaccinated pose NO MORE RISK to those that are vaccinated as those who are not. Everyone can spread it, no matter their shot status. At this point it's a personal choice and we all have to gauge the level of risk we wanna take. The only thing the shot MIGHT be good for is to lessen severity.

I totally get her concern but i do think that's super rude because it is SO short notice. just have everyone mask up and social distance regardless of vaccination status

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Yes, this. If there are unvaccinated people there, there needs to be full social distancing, masking and hand sanitization in place while indoors. This is to protect both the vaccinated and unvaccinated people, by preventing transmission.