Urgently needing advice announcing a non traditional Mexican wedding!!

Hold up...no alcohol.

Please search this site, this has been brought up soooooooo much over the last few weeks, and these topics never go over well. Host your guests properly, would you invite them over for dinner and make them pay for their wine? If cost is an issue, beer and wine are perfectly fine.

ETA: you changed it.

Nevermind!

I'm not even going to touch the "no alcohol" thing.

Just invite who you want and put a number on the RSVP. Ex. "3 seats have been reserved in your name"

DH comes from a fairly traditional Mexican family and we had ZERO issue with anyone trying to bring extra people.

Fellow Mexican -American here. We wrote "___ seats have been reserved in your honor" on our RSVP cards. Also we addressed the invites to who is actually invited " Mr. And Mrs _____ or ______ Family". Also, we are serving alcohol.

I should've worded that differently. No alcohol as in no open bar. There will be wine served & a toast. But not provided freely to where people get drunk off of it (if that makes sense).

Thanks for the advice!

I know what you mean. It's an unfortunate reality with some Mexican weddings. We did have an issue with people wanting to bring guests (someone put 14 on the RSVP card - yes, 14!) we had to pick up the phone and call them. We had 1 person upset and told us they were no longer coming but everyone else understood that we were only inviting them, not their mother-in-law and 7 cousins.

As far as no alcohol, please reconsider. You need to make sure you are properly hosting your guests. They took time out of their day to celebrate you and your husband and are brining you a gift. They deserve to be properly hosted.

Lol. I feel your pain girl. I agree with Britti.

I had to do that with my RSVP's. Just yesterday someone tagged my mom ON FB saying "hey put us down for 5". I was sooo annoyed. My mom did call them and explained very nicely there were just 2 seats reserved for them, and asked them to please delete the fb status.

The best way is to make it clear on the invitation who is invited by addressing it to the specific people. Then make sure your RSVP cards specify how many seats are reserved for them and leave a space for them to write in how many of that number will attend. The ones that don't understand that and RSVP for more than is invited, you will just have to call and explain to them that you cannot accommodate the extra people. I feel you, I had to deal with this for both sides of our families, Mexican and non. I don't know why it's so hard for people to understand invitations, lol!

Word of mouth is the best way to go about this. I'm Mexican (born there) and was raised in both cultures. I'm marrying an American. Our wedding will be no where near exactly like a traditional Mexican wedding because a lot of my beliefs and culture come from here. My family was a little upset at first and still bring up "oh you aren't doing this. Oh none of that?" but oh well. It's my wedding and I don't want to make myself or my FH uncomfortable just to follow tradition. Spread the word through friends and family.

Just be stern and direct with invites. You kind of have to oversee who your parents and your FIL's are inviting. Address the envelopes to only include the people you want (Mr. and Mrs not Family) and yes like people above have mentioned, specify how many people the invite is for. I have so many people inviting THEMSELVES to my wedding. People are stupid, but be as direct as possible.

I did not have a "traditional" wedding. We wrote out the invites to only those that were invited. I told my mom we weren't inviting any kids and no 2nd cousins and she told my aunt that loves a good gossip. By the time the wedding came around, I didn't really have any problems. I did have one cousin that thought she could substitute her BFs and dad's wives invites (they couldn't come) and bring her daughters. I heard from my nosey aunt she was going to do this and I called her, asked her who was coming with her and when she told me her plan I said "sorry the invites were for X & Y" She didn't come.

After we came back from our HM, my mom told me my side of the family really loved my "non-traditional" wedding. But we did offer an open bar because....booze.

@Elisa, I am on the same boat. We are doing a more "Americanized" wedding. It will be in English, and although I feel bad that my mom won't understand what is being said, this is the language my FH and I speak on a regular basis. His family is English speaking, but mine is not. Anyhow, I too will not have a typical Mexican wedding.

It is your wedding girl....Do YOU!

I forgot to mention..... I am dreading the whole RSVP thing.