I am really upset with my dad, I thought he was happy for me.
Last year, my FH and I got engaged. When I told my dad, he bawled his eyes out. He said he was so happy for me and that he'd help in anyway that he could. (Never asked or expected anything from him). Later on though, stress began to build and me and my FH changed our wedding plans repeatedly, even going so far as to cancel the wedding until further notice, due to family stress and extenuating factors. Since we're in a far better position now, and have more clear minds, the wedding planning is in full gear and we couldn't be more happy.
When my dad found out the wedding was back on, he has stopped contacting me. Very unlike him. I had to tell my grandma (his mother) to get him to call me. He was very nonchalant about everything. He said he was "okay" (as if he really had a say in that) with my decision to get married and that he wants to help me, but his tone seemed... off. Very unlike himself. I repeatedly asked him if he was okay. He says he was, but I know he isn't.
He is married with a woman who is a seventh-say Adventist. They live by strict codes (No parties, no dancing, no alcohol, no unworldly entertainment.) She partakes in the sabbath, and they do not participate in any activities on Saturday, not even funerals they are supposed to attend. Everything that my wedding is, is everything she and her faith are against. My wedding is on a Saturday, there will be dancing, open bar, lots of partying, of course. So my dad sort of asked me if I could change my wedding date. I asked him why? He says because his wife doesn't agree with my date of choice. I told him absolutely not, my FH and I are party people.
We like to drink, have fun, dance, and will not change the date for one person. Ever since then, my dad has literally been avoiding me. I've tried to call him countless amounts of times, asked him for his address for my wedding spreadsheet (yeah, I have no clue where my dad lives, yikes) he is ignoring every message and every call. We hadn't had the closest relationship, but he was coming around especially to be around our daughters. It's rough. I don't know what to make of this. I'm upset that he's dodging me. He says he's just busy, that's why he hasn't gotten back to me, but I know better. Other people have been able to get a hold of him. I don't know what his issue is. I just wish some parents wouldn't behave in this way... I suppose I'm just venting...
