Upset my sister is trying to plan her wedding 3 weeks before mine

Why is the wedding date listed by your username different from the one you mentioned in the post?

That sucks that she is doing this but there isn't much you can do about it. Just keep planning your own wedding and see how things go with your sister. It sounds like things aren't going to pan out the way she is claiming they will.

Talk to her about it, express your concern but if that doesn't work then you just have to get over it.

If he hasn't proposed yet, then they might not get married when she thinks they will.

The wedding dates don't match up so she isn't getting married 10 days before you. more like over a month before you.

You have a booked venue. She is an eighteen year old who doesn't even have a genuine proposal of marriage. Proceed with your plans. If she actually gets engaged and has the money to book a venue, that's the time for a sit down. She is probably in the dreaming stage.

Well, I am retired Army but I have been on wedding boards for years and more than one Marine FI or female Marine has mentioned that they had to request permission to get married. That could be her first hurdle.

Second - he could be in a training program come next June and note even be AVAILABLE on June BTW. That in itself could make a lot of people decline.

I'm thinking she has the cart WAAAAAY before the horse here. He hasn't proposed yet, he isn't finished with his training, and she has chosen a Monday to get married.

One thing I have seen time and time again is a new recruit getting injured at his basic or MOS school. When you are injured you are NOT training, you are in a hold status and you will get recycled back into your program when you are well again and when that cycle is available.

I really don't think you have much to worry about here. What have your parents said about this?

~ I had never finished setting up my profile after settling our wedding venue last week.. so that is why the dates were off. The other venue overbooked.

~ June 14th, 2015 is a Sunday next year... And mine would be June 27th, 13 days later, but many of my family is participating in my wedding. So they would show up several days before.

Not that either of those logistics based off of my non-updated profile have much to do with anything.

I just don't know why I feel so down about all of this. Like its going to steal my spotlight for the months prior to the wedding with everyone focused on getting hers done first, and then having mine feel like a nuisance with having to travel again. I don't even think I will be able to afford to fly to San Diego 2 weeks before my wedding.

Yeah, my bad on that, it's a Sunday. That is what happens when you are here and at work!

If there isn't even an engagement yet...I advise not to stress about plans that might not even happen.

First of all your sister is a C U Next Tuesday.

Second until your sister gets engaged do not stress about her "wedding" until a proposal happens.

Third even if a proposal does happen do not stress over her wedding. You'll have enough to worry about with yours.

Don't even worry about this.

1. Your sister isn't even engaged.

2. She doesn't have a venue booked so she has zero guarantee of even getting married on that date anyway.

3. Like PP said, her BOYFRIEND may not even be available for the date she's selected out of seemingly nowhere.

4. Why is your family even stressing over this right now? She's not engaged, she doesn't have an official date without a booked venue. They need to just worry about your wedding right now. If your sister gets engaged later, then fine, but seriously, this is such a non-issue it isn't even funny.

I had a similar issue. We got engaged and chose our date. Then, my sister announces that while her Marine boyfriend was home on leave, they eloped and got married. Her first anniversary would have been on my wedding day next year but we chose a different date.

Now she is saying they are going to have a wedding (even though they are already married). She's not sure when yet but wants to do it before he deploys. So basically, her "wedding" will fall a couple of months before my wedding. I have a feeling they are leaning towards doing it on the same day as their anniversary so it would be 2 weeks before mine.

We are in the same boat with family traveling. We are from NY but currently live in NC about five and a half hours away.

My suggestion, just sit on it until she is actually engaged. A lot can change between now and then. I'm waiting to hear an official date from her. If I feel like it's too close to my wedding, I will let it be known!

She can plan on getting engaged all she wants. Is he planning on proposing? LOL. I was planning on getting engaged for 3 years before FH finally asked

Don't worry about it. Don't stress about it. IDGAF club, right ladies?

Sidenote: my cousin and his FW got engaged on the same day as me & FH. After chatting, We realized we both wanted the same time frame - Sept 2015. No reason to be upset about it because It all works out in the end

When I was in Basic Training everyone was engaged or thought they would propose to their gf when they saw them. Not a single one actually married the person, or were even dating the person time they got out.....just saying

Don't even stress about it. Anyways, my FH is from SD so I have been to several weddings down there and I think I know where she is trying to get married at. My understanding is that the waitlist for that venue is long. Has she even tried to get the venue for that date? I don't imagine it would be that easy.