Upset about delayed honeymoon

I'm sorry you had to push it back ☹ I'd definitely tell staff that you are honeymooning and reap all of the benefits, if there are any!

I totally understand! Aside from a super generous contribution from my FMIL I am paying for the entirety of the wedding aside from my engagement ring. My fh has a state job and his contract does not allow him to have a second job so he is tapped out. I'm working two jobs (and have been for about 3.5 years) and finally quitting in June. I had to choose between a delayed honeymoon or continuing to work in a toxic environment for even longer. It sucks so bad!

We are getting married in May and honeymooning in July. I'm not too fussed about it- it's still our honeymoon.

I feel the same way. We aren't going on one at all because of money. However I just keep telling myself that when we do go it will be worth it. Be grateful you are going on one and enjoy it love..

Thank you all - I really needed the pep talk!
I suppose it’s not the delay itself that’s so bad - it’s the uncertainty. There’s a chance I won’t have a steady job at all, obviously bad but then again I’d have plenty of time to honeymoon. And a small chance I could have a great job with flexible vacation time. So very nerve wracking. You all helped a lot though! It will be wonderful no matter what!

I get it. We were planning on delaying our honeymoon anyways, but now My sister is having a destination wedding the same week we were planning to go (she didn’t know). So we are using our honeymoon money to go to that now. 🤷‍♀️

I'm sorry you had to push it back. I agree that whenever you honeymoon, it will be very special. I'd definitely let the staff know you are newlyweds on your honeymoon. Ours will be delayed, too, because of health concerns. I pray everything works out perfectly and some of the unknown stress, which is the worst in my opinion, is resolved soon.

We’re doing roughly the same - wedding in September, then honeymoon in December right after final exams (he’s a professor and i’m in school) and coming back two days before Christmas. It’s going to be hectic for sure, but it does give us time to save money and save up some of his vacation days.

My wedding was in September, we left for the honeymoon two days after Christmas. It felt kinda rushed, sure, but it wasn’t any less special. We still used our mr and Mrs luggage tags, still told each hotel it was our honeymoon and got free food and booze, still told everyone we met it was our honeymoon. We had an insane trip booked and it never felt less special. I’m rather glad we didn’t go right after our honeymoon because I was moving and it wouldn’t have been fun at all.

View Quoted Comment This all makes me feel so much better! Thank you!

I'm sorry you're bummed!

We're going on our honeymoon like 8 months after our wedding and I fully intend to treat it like my honeymoon and tell everyone I see that we're in our honeymoon. We wanted to go on an Alaskan cruise but they only sail in certain times of the year so.... Wedding in October, cruise in June.

If it helps, when we went on our honeymoon, we were told that we had up to a year from our wedding to reap all the "honeymooner's freebies"! We also met a couple who honeymooned 6 months after their wedding!

I could understand how that would be a bummer, but you will have just as good a time going in December as you would have in October. Our wedding is 9/2/18 but we aren't going on our honeymoon until Sept 2019. We wanted to have the opportunity to save money (and not use any funds we got from the wedding - that's going towards a house), make sure we had enough vacation time and also train properly - we are hiking to Everest base camp so we need to make sure we are in a little bit better shape lol. I wish we could leave right after the wedding, but it makes more sense to do it this way. Believe me I understand!

We are waiting 4 to 5 months to go on our honeymoon. The plan is to do a mini-moon for about 3 days after our wedding. Maybe that can be an option? It makes more sense for our work situations to wait a while for the big trip. If we force it, it won't be what we want. I think it's better to do that than take a trip where you're consistently worrying and/or regretting the decision. It sounds like postponing will be the best move for you. Look at it this way: you have more time to plan for the trip!!

My FH is deploying pretty much immediately after we get married so we aren't doing a honeymoon at all! lol

We had to push ours back for money reasons.

We're going on a Mini-moon right after to Traverse City, Mi because we love the area and it's pretty.

Our big trip is happening in January. I think just by getting in the honeymoon mindset and telling people it's your honeymoon it'll still feel special

Haven't had to deal with this (at least as of now, knock on wood!) but I did have a horrible time over the weekend because we got a call that the VRBO condo we booked suddenly cancelled our reservation. I was really bummed because I was looking forward to that part the most, should have been overlooking the water. So now we booked a completely different type of place which seems ok but not what I had in mind. So I get it :/ but it will still be great, and so will yours, whenever you go!

My husband and I delayed our honeymoon by 3 months. I work in event planning and August was the best time in between events for us to get married (plus it was considered off peak for my venue which saved us some money). I had to go right back to work since I have a very big event the end of August every year. Frankly, neither of us wanted to go away in August. We wanted to go to the Caribbean so we waited until hurricane/rainy season was just about over and went in November.

So many people mentioned to me that they had wished they had waited a bit after the wedding since they were so exhausted.

We went to Sandals St. Lucia and while they only provide the "honeymoon" extras if you go within a month of your wedding, they were very understanding and accommodating and we got the full honeymoon treatment there.

I'm sorry that you're experiencing this! My FH and I will also have to wait pretty close to our wedding next year to determine whether or not we will go on our honeymoon right away or wait a few months. Our wedding is three weeks into a new school year, and as a teacher, I can't see myself leaving for a "vacation" right away, even if it is our honeymoon. I'm pretty upset but we will wait and see! We also have to wait because it'll be dependent on whether my FH is deploying soon around our wedding or not.
Just try to think about how excited you will be to get married and celebrate the day with your family, then you will have something else to look forward to shortly after to celebrate just the two of you!!

Look on the bright side... you’re still going on one! I know it sucks!! We had to push ours out an additional week. Our cruise itinerary changed from Cozumel Mexico and another destination (I forget) to Cuba and Key West. We were bummed but definitely didn’t want to go to Cuba.