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Karen
Devoted July 2020

Unwanted guest rant - dont know what to do Help!

Karen, on January 27, 2020 at 9:15 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7
We sent out STDs in November and I had someone tell me that she and her husband will be attending the wedding. A STD was sent to the couple as a request from my parents (whom are paying for half of the wedding) but it was more of a "courtesy" than them wanting them to actually attend. We were all hoping they'll say no.


Let me tell you why. My family (parents) is very involved in their church and while they dont engage in any drinking or partying of the sort my wedding will have an open bar and music. Some of my younger cousins and aunts and uncles are not as involved and they will most likely want to have a drink and/or dance. I KNOW for a fact that if this lady who already confirmed attendance goes she will be going back to church and report on everything that went on at my wedding which will result in lots of talks. I personally don't care what she says or thinks about me I dont go to their church but I know that she will prevent the rest of my family from enjoying themselves which is stressing ME out.
My parents knew this but they felt bad not including them in the wedding (given that they are very involved with the church). Which is why they asked that they are invited but we were hoping they'll say no. Specially because I'm having a Thursday wedding and they have service on that day.

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Latest activity by Michelle, on January 29, 2020 at 6:46 AM
  • VIP November 2021
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    If it’s a concern to you and you truly do not want them there then they shouldn’t be invited. You can’t invite everyone just because you feel obligated, don’t want to feel awkward, etc if that was the case we woukdnt even have invites lol it would just be open to whoever wanted to come
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Honestly someone should not be stressed but sadly you gave her an invite and it would also cause talk you uninviting her at this point. Your family should not worry about her and enjoy themselves or maybe invite her to the ceremony and not the reception?

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  • P
    January 2014
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    There's nothing you can do at this point. You sent an STD, she let you know she'll be there. If you try to uninvite her, it'll be worse than if she attends and sees people having a drink and/or dancing. You already know she's a gossip, why give her something even worse to gossip about?

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  • Maggie
    Super April 2020
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    Unfortunately, you did send them a save the date which means they’ve been invited, you can’t really go about I inviting them. I think the best bet is to have your parents speak to them and state that though your parents are quite religious, not everyone attending is and to let them know that there may be drinking and dancing at the reception and if they are uncomfortable with this then they are welcome to only attend the ceremony.
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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
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    You can't undo this. They are coming to the wedding.
    Never invite people assuming they won't come.
    Also, if your parents were so concerned about her behavior they shouldn't have asked you to invite them. I agree with Maggie- have your parents speak with them and advise that you are having some guests who enjoy drinking/dancing.

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  • S
    Expert October 2020
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    I probably would have never sent a STD or invite. Honestly, It's a wedding and even catholic receptions I have been to everyone does the same thing. Drink Party. Etc . So even if she comes then w/e. Don't let them ruin your day.

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  • Michelle
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    Honey you can't let this stress you...there are bigger fish to fry! I think you really should just let the night happen as is...she might not even say much, I highly doubt you'll have people taking clothes off and standing up on tables swinging their shirt around in one hand with a drink in the other yelling out curse words lol (I hope that made you laugh a litttle) but all that to say...church folk will always be church folk, they all gossip. But just remember your young, it's your time to party with you family and people will understand that!
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