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Dedicated June 2021

Unsure whether or not to postpone

Amanda, on July 6, 2020 at 9:14 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 17
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Anyone else feeling so torn on what to do?
I know many couples have been doing a bunch of different things! But for myself we have postponed once already and have been waiting almost 3 years to be married. Mass currently came out with a no dancing rule and I just don’t know if the wedding is worth it now because we were all excited for that and we have already paid our dj off in full! (He wanted the money on our original date back in June) We would also obviously have to limit our guest count/social distance. We have talked about doing just a ceremony this year and the party next year but it will cost us more money that we don’t really feel like paying. At the same time I am worried if things aren’t back to normal by next year I’ll be kicking myself for not just doing it this year. Anyone else feeling this way? What did you all decide? Thanks!

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Latest activity by Amanda, on July 10, 2020 at 11:57 AM
  • Jess
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    Our wedding was set for September, but we postponed to May 2021. Our state (VA) just moved into phase 3 which means technically we could have had it, but it would not have looked like what we planned at all. No dancing, staying 6 feet apart, and possibly masks. We just weren’t willing to settle for that. In my opinion, it’s best to postpone. Things may not be 100% better next year, but hopefully we can make enough advances with a vaccine or a cure by then. I’m hopefully it will be a better situation than what we are dealing with now.
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  • Amanda
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    We are the same here in MA and I know deep down inside I am not happy with that, it’s not what I envisioned for myself. I agree I hope next year we’re back to at least some sort of normal. Thank you!!
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  • Christina
    Devoted July 2020
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    I’m in MA. I’m really sorry this is happening. I am having my ceremony this year and reception next year but to be honest I’m really nervous about next year as Charlie has started that stage 4 is when a vaccine is made... 🙃 who knows when that will be. Do what feels best for you and trust your gut. I honestly looking back wish that I pulled the plug on my reception because thinking about 2021 is stressful and I’m nervous. My opinion would be to have it and see what creative things you can do to make it fun. That’s just my suggestion. I know Itis not what you wanted but I do think while we are in the clear and the state is doing good have it. Just my thoughts.
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  • Christina
    Devoted July 2020
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    *stated sorry silly auto correct !
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  • L
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    Our wedding is July 18 and there is still a chance in Oregon for it to go into phase 2 (100 people), but we decided to postpone until August 2021. If we were to have this wedding this year, we had to cut 50 people, meaning we had to cut a majority of plus ones. People understood but having a date at a wedding makes a it more fun. We didn't postpone because of that, but in hindsight, having a wedding that is closer to the one you envision and not having to settle for a smaller guest list, masks, social distancing, no dancing, etc. felt like the right decision for us. It completely sucks because a lot of my friends got married last summer and I was looking forward to finally having my wedding. Also, it's a relief to have everything set for next year and get all our vendors secured before they get booked.
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  • Amanda
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    I know I agree! I’m going back and forth with these options too, I just wish he would let us dance in our own little social circles but what can you do. Best of luck to you and congrats!
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  • Amanda
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    That’s how I feel! I know this is not what I want and it isn’t going to change obviously. Tbh I thought things would be better by August but I was wrong lol. I also kinda feel relieved moving it because I don’t have to worry anymore. Best of luck to you!
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  • Chelsea G
    Devoted June 2021
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    I am also in MA and I just don't what to say. I have also postponed and will be engaged 3 years in Sept and I'm just over it. I want to be married!! But I also don't want to have to settle. I'm honestly not sure when the vaccine will be available which he wants to move to phase 4 and who it will be available to/how available it will be. I just don't understand why people can't dance esp if they're wearing masks and distancing.

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  • Sara
    Devoted August 2021
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    We postponed our September wedding that was in Wisconsin. We are getting married at the courthouse August 28th which is a Friday, then next year on August 28th, a Saturday, we will have a vow renewal with the whole shebang. Hopefully. Maybe. Yeah hopefully.
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    We were supposed to be getting married this weekend (July 11th), but we were able to postpone to next summer on the same date. We went back a forth for a long time, and what it ultimately boiled down to is we wanted our guests to stay safe and happy, and my fiance and I have very large families from all over the country. I think if you want to have the party the way you want, postponing is the best because having loved ones get sick because of a wedding is not worth it. Good luck with your decision!

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  • Molly
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    I'm getting married 9/5/2020 in CA I have waited long enough to get married and I am not postponing. I understand how you feel. I would reach out to your venue and see how strict they will be with the no dancing rule.

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  • Amanda
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    I totally get it, his rules are crazy. I ended up deciding today to postpone to next June with the hopes it won’t be as hard. The no dancing really did it for me. If come next year we’re still like this than I will have no choice but to get married. Best of luck to you! It’s hard here in MA
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  • Amanda
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    It unfortunately was VERY Strict to the point people can’t even get up and mingle with a mask on. I decided today to postpone because I just can’t picture my wedding like that. Best of luck to you and congrats on your big day!
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  • Naikesha
    Super September 2020
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    Hey Amanda when did you decide to postpone to?

    Really sorry that must have been a very stressful decision. I'm holding tight that September looks a lil better.

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  • Amanda
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    Hey Naikesha,

    We ended up postponing to June 2021. The rules here in MA are so strict and our governor does't seem to be budging on them anytime soon. We have decided though that whatever happens next year that is our date lol, we have been waiting too long. Good luck and congrats to you on your big day, I am sure it will be beautiful!

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  • Naikesha
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    Amanda Thanks so much! I feel if I was getting married in the states I would've been more nervous! as crazy as that may sound the Caribbean seems a lil safer with their #s and that we must have negative test results before getting on plane. This gives me some needed comfort.

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  • Amanda
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    Oh for sure! You will be fine! We had planned to honeymoon to Aruba and just to get into the country their was a LIST of rules and guidelines. A wedding in the Caribbean sounds AMAZING! CONGRATS!

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