Growing up my sister was badly emotional abusive to me, narcissistic, wanted to punish me for being born (she’s 15 years older than I am) and generally made my life miserable. I hardly speak if she’s in the same room, she and I haven’t talked directly more than once a year. She and I got into a nasty fight this summer, she hated me for not wanting to see her, called me a fatty that needed a Twinkie at my weight and eating disorder and told me to keep go sucking on the nipple lol. I’m sure she said everything that she needed to but I am 23, she is 38 and I didn’t feel the desire to engage and I haven’t spoken to her since aside from texting her about our moms surgery going fine.
I would 100% not invite her if it weren’t for her daughter… I will be 25 when I get married and her daughter will be 6, so potentially old enough to remember the day. I don’t want her to continue to be punished by my sister if I do something that she doesn’t like, because by default she doesn’t let her speak to my brother with Down syndrome and autism or my mom who has been very ill because of grudges against me. Not inviting her to my wedding will sever our attempts at a future relationship, I’m sure, but I mostly care about my niece who is too young to understand and wouldn’t get why her aunt doesn’t speak to her family. I desperately want her to know that she’s still an important person in my life, but when it comes to my wedding I have no clue. I feel so lost over this. My sister will already be insulted that she’s not a bridesmaid (she made me one when I was 16 then revoked it because I was too shy.. because of her screaming at me constantly since I was a toddler). On top of that, I can’t imagine what will come if she isn’t invited since she desperately loves appearances and wants to seem like a great sister.
It’s a mess, I’d love any thoughts or personal experiences to help me sort out my own feelings 😓
