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Unsure about family friend doing wedding hair

Bride2Be, on September 6, 2021 at 2:24 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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I feel like I’m in a tough spot because originally I was planning on hiring a random hair artist to do my hair and I was fine with that. My aunt offered to pay for my hair and suggested that I ask my family friend who I grew up getting my hair cut by. She’s a hair stylist and a great family friend who lives 3 hours away and she was definitely going to be invited to the wedding and I just never thought about asking her to do my wedding hair! When she suggested it I thought it would be so sweet and a great idea, but the more I think about it now the logistics of it are just not what would work for me. When I do my hair and makeup trial, I was going to take that day and do my bridal portraits but it seems too difficult to drive 3 hours there and 3 hours back for the trial. And I know she’s great at cutting hair but idk if doing a bridal style is in the same wheelhouse? I haven’t asked her yet to do my hair because I haven’t decided yet if I want her to. I also don’t want to insult my aunt by saying no I actually don’t want to do that since she offered to pay for it. What should I do?

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Expert February 2020
Givemeallthepups · on September 6, 2021 at 2:39 PM
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I would find someone that specializes in wedding hair and makeup. If your aunt asks, just tell her you thought about it and don’t want your family friend to have to work at your wedding.
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Bride2Be · on September 6, 2021 at 6:09 PM
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So that’s a very specialized thing right? I didn’t want to assume they wouldn’t be able to do it, but I always thought it was two separate type professions. Because I’d rather a professional do things but I was happy about it at first because I was like well she’s a professional hair stylist but if it’s two separate skill sets then I won’t feel as bad telling her id rather get someone else
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Becky · on September 6, 2021 at 6:38 PM
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I had my regular hairdresser do my hair for my wedding - but I was looking for something pretty simple and he wasn't out of the way nor was he invited to the wedding. In your circumstances I would say thanks, but go a different direction.
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Michelle · on September 6, 2021 at 7:08 PM
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I didn’t ask the lady who normally does my hair to do my bridal hair. We worked for months getting the correct shade & making sure it was healthy. I didn’t ask since we live 3.5 hours away from the venue. She & her husband were invited to the wedding but logistically I couldn’t swing her doing my hair.
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Givemeallthepups · on September 6, 2021 at 7:20 PM
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It’s definitely a specialized thing. Cutting / coloring hair is a totally different than styling hair to last through a 12 hour day. A bridal hair specialist with also know their needed timeline better and can think through things better like placing a hairpiece so it’s placed best for the ceremony photos
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Jacks · on September 7, 2021 at 2:15 AM
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I would avoid "friendors", because the business and friendship can get confused.
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Mcskipper · on September 7, 2021 at 10:55 AM
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I would tell your aunt you prefer to let your guest just be a guest who gets to enjoy her trip without having to work. You do run the risk of your aunt pulling funding, so be prepared to pay for your own hair just in case.

She’s likely perfectly capable of a lovely updo (We went to my old regular hair salon for wedding hair), but to me I think there is a big difference to working in a salon vs being a traveling stylist, who has a traveling set of all necessary supplies. So, If this person was local and I could go to their salon, I may consider it, but since they’d need to bring an array of supplies to you, sounds like way more trouble than it’s worth. Also a guest she may want that before the wedding time to get herself ready!
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Bride2Be · on September 7, 2021 at 11:54 AM
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I agree! I’m going to talk to my aunt this weekend and let her know my thoughts on it.
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· on September 7, 2021 at 1:59 PM
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I say have a stylist who specializes in wedding and special events hair. Friendor’s can be tricky and often warned against. I also had an aunt who tried to push me to have a cousin so my hair and makeup and the makeup for my bridal party got my wedding. But I held my ground and said no and kept my traveling wedding hair and makeup team.
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