- I am getting married in May 2021. My bridal party consists of.... Matron/Maid of Honor and two Bridesmaids. In most instances, the person you've known the longest is the one who is usually the most supportive/closest during your wedding planning. Right? Well, not so much in my case. The person I've known the longest and once considered my best friend since high school has been the least supportive. I'm certain I would run out of characters if I provided every detail. When I first asked the girls to be in the wedding, I made her the Maid of Honor and initially had three bridesmaids (she seemed happy). I have another friend whom I'm extremely close with; she's more like a best friend, sister etc... She immediately began offering to assist me in planning (literally going above and beyond without being prompted)...I did what seemed to be the natural thing and that was to change her role in the wedding from BM to Matron of Honor. I made the announcement to the other girls, everyone congratulated her and we moved on with planning. Fast forward, the Maid of Honor/former bestie became seemingly indifferent when I advised her that she would be walking down the aisle before the Matron (which of course means she would not be standing next to me.) I just didn't think it would be fair to have my Matron do all the work/planning for an entire year+, then have someone who has contributed the least just because she's known me the longest stand next to me on my big day. Even one on my BM whom I'm also very close with has done more in this past week than she has in 8 months. It seems she's just not happy for me and it's crystal clear that my wedding planning is not a priority for her. I have considered relieving her of all wedding duties/participation, but with only having 5 months and a few days left, a lot of money spent by everyone (Airbnb for wedding weekend, Cancun Bachelorette party, shoes and Bridal Brunch planning)...even with all this I'm torn because I see her as a fair weather friend. I have ultimately decided to just make her a BM. If you can't be supportive of your friend on one the most important days of her life, do you even belong in their life? Of course not! I hate to say it, but once all planning has concluded and the wedding has taken place, I see distancing myself from her as the best option. I just don't have the energy right now to entertain having a conversation with her. Has anyone ever had to deal with friends or family members that didn't seem supportive while planning your wedding?