Unsupportive Family?

Yesss! My mom was so excited when I got engaged and my MOH was already sending me pictures of things. Then once I told them what I wanted and showed them the thing I liked or even asked and showed them pictures. They just would look at the picture then look away! My mom especially!! My MOH sees what I sent her but doesn't reply but is always on social media posting random stuff . No advice but you're not alone. So I have kind of just kept to my fiance about everything and I'm lucky he's invloved. But it just makes me sad like as if they aren't happy for me.

I think they will be more excited on the big day. This is a common post here but ultimately the only people to really feel excited are you and your FH. It would be nice for everyone to be excited but they have their own lives. I would suggest get a cake from a baker or some cupcakes to cut costs but don't let this get you down. It does not mean they do not love and care about you but I think the excitement wears off and comes back the days leading up to it. Post all your happiness and questions here...that is what drew me to the forums. Many of these ladies are very helpful and I learned a lot.

Sorry to hear about your mom backing out. I’m sure that’s a let down. But, as for the rest... I often read posts like this where brides expect others to be interested and excited about their wedding details and plans. But as long as you and your FH are excited, that’s all that matters. Talk to your FH about the plans. My FH is the only person that I pass ideas by because it’s our wedding and no one else’s. But, if you want outside opinions on wedding related topics, then just post it here on WW and you’ll get a flood of overly excited brides who will reply.

It's not clear in your post; has she said she's not making your cake now? Or just isn't talking about it? You're 10 months out, it's pretty early to get it all planned out in detail with her at this point.

If she's changed her mind, you've still got plenty of time to make other arrangements.

I know exactly what you mean unfortunately. I haven’t received any help whatsoever for my wedding in 2 weeks. Literally done everything by myself. Thankfully FH finally stepped up and started helping me after he saw how stressed I was getting and literally had a break down a few months ago and almost gave up completely with planning. Didn’t help that a few bridesmaids (sadly pretty much family) who were actually the only ones besides FH’s family that live relatively close were actively working against me and being completely unsupportive. Wine helps so I hope you a cute bride to be wine glass. I also dedicated set times towards planning and didn’t look at wedding stuff outside that time. I kept detailed check lists by month so I knew when to tackle what and didn’t have to scramble. It sucks to feel like no one cares leading up but the day of will try to fight to be in your face so just think about the fact that you get to marry your best friend and how happy you too will be!

View Quoted Comment Congrats on your upcoming wedding!♡ Me and you are in the same boat, except my wedding is a little further out. I've had bridesmaids just up and quit. I've even had one cut me off because I asked her why she didnt come bridesmaids dress shopping. I dont understand why some people act that way. It's been months and she will not talk to me, which is fine if she chooses to act that way. Oh well, I'm definitely going to try that scheduling idea! The only hard part is I work rotating shifts every week on nights and my FH works 5-6 days a week. I'll find a way, I always do! Thank you for your reply and I wish you the absolute best!

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She's said that she doesnt want to make it and that she is: "just going to show up like she's supposed to". I cant help it I like to get things done early. Yes, I know it seems like I have plenty of time but see, I live in a small town and I am getting married the most popular time of year for weddings. There are not many resources near by, so I have to try to- 'get in where I fit in'-. I cannot tell you how many times I've been turned down by caterers, photographers, ceremony musicians, DJ's, etc-even at a year out because the local ones were already booked up. The ones I reach out to that are farther away want to charge arms and legs just to come out this far. It's just over budget.

View Quoted Comment I suppose I am just disappointed in my friends and family. It will be okay. I will try posting here more often when I need help with things. Thank you for your insight. 😁

Maybe shes worried that the cake wouldn't turn out and that it would ruin your day or something. My mom said shes had dreams that she trips or gets a black eye and "ruins" my day. Haha she has as much anxiety as I do.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, she had mentioned that but I was really counting on her. I didnt plan for her not to make it in the budget- now thats another almost $1,000 dollar expense I was not prepared for. It's just that she was so adamant about making the cake for me and my FH when we got engaged and up until a few months ago. I told her that I wouldn't have agreed to her doing it for us if I didnt have full confidence that she could do it. I'm not asking for anything crazy. Just a vanilla cake with caramel buttercream and a light caramel sauce between layers. No fondant, no sugar flowers, no expensive toppers... I tried to boost her confidence back up but that doesnt seem to change her mind. I'm just disappointed, that's all.