Unreturned rsvp Venting

Yes it's frustrating. Some people don't reply when there isn't a pandemic underway. Spend the next few days texting and calling to get an answer.

I’m sorry this is happening to you! I’m one week out from rsvp date and only half have sent back as well! I would give those guests a call and get an answer from them! You also have to keep in mind with these times that some people are really struggling with work and kids not being in school so life in general is difficult do many so don’t guilt trip then too much, but you deserve a yes or no either way. Good luck girl!

View Quoted Comment It's so disrespectful. Like I have nothing better to do 35 day before my wedding than calling everyone that hasn't responded.

Ugh. This is exactly why we are requiring RSVPs 60 days out.

I totally understand the frustration!! Sorry that this is happening to you. Just in case their RSVP cards got lost in the mail, I would still call each person you haven't heard from to ask if they plan on attending.

I honestly think part of it could be the post office. Delivery since COVID has been really slow. My in-laws live only an hour away, and mailed me a birthday card a couple weeks ago, and it took 11 days to be delivered!

It’s totally frustrating! Covid or no covid people are unfortunately like that. You definitely do have to contact them and ask if they need more time or to ask for their response by x date

Bear in mind that the post office is crazy right now with mail being backed up for at least a couple weeks or longer. Make sure to go down your entire list just to be safe.

I’m so sorry! I know it’s an absolute hassle and if I were in that position I’d unfortunately have a phone call sesh with the FH. They should be considerate of all the work you need to put in with the guest list being a requirement. Goodluck and sending love 💕

I just went through this! My rsvp date was the 31st and I had to chase down quite a few people. Here the template I made! It worked really well! I sent it on the 1st and gave them till the 3rd to respond

Hello________

We just wanted to send a reminder that the rsvp date for our wedding,on ______,was yesterday. Unfortunately we have not heard from you yet! Please let us know if you are able to attend or not. If we do not hear from you by _________, we will unfortunately have to mark you as “regretfully decline”. We look forward to celebrating with our friends and family! Please let us know if you have any questions! Much love,_________

(Wedding website)

Then we sent this to the other 3 household that didn’t respond the morning of the third
I Just wanted to reach out one more time about your rsvp for the wedding. Please let us know by end of day (September 3rd) if you will be able to make it or not! Otherwise you will be mark as regretfully decline💕

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I went to comment and now I see at the same time that your date is set for Nov 2021, so I'm *hoping* this advice is not relevant to you by the time yours is happening.

We had to do 45 days out (final count was due 30 days for venue/ final payment), and we didn't have to follow-up on too many to get the count. Buuuut, our final count went from 83 bought and paid down to 60 in the time since then - and those are just the people that probably have had the courtesy to reach out and let us know their RSVP changed. Whomp whomp whoooomp.

We've taken the time to check one on one with the rest at this point, because the venue said they can't refund but they can donate the extra food to those in need if they prepare/ package it separately. All that to say that 60 days out may be a risk as well - paying for open bar for an extra 23 people is.....sigh.

View Quoted Comment Oh dang, that’s a bummer! Ours is a destination wedding, so hopefully we won’t run into that. Our venue doesn’t need final headcount until 30 days prior, so we are using the additional 30 days to track down anyone who hadn’t RSVP’ed yet, and also as a buffer for anyone who changes their minds. One of our questions on our wedding website when you RSVP is what flight you are on & when it arrives- it helps us to keep track of who’s where, plus it gives us assurance that they have already booked their flights (so unlikely they will cancel last minute)

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Good point - a destination wedding is a much bigger thing to last minute cancel. We're pretty confident that all our "flight people" will intend to come out unless their flights get all jacked up.

Good luck!

An RSVP date is the date they need to put the card in the mail. Unless you offered an online option, you have several more days before the lack of a response is even tardy or rude.
Regardless, don’t take it personally because it certainly isn’t meant that way.

I asked our guest to RSVP through our wedding website, to cut paper cost and ease. I sent out magnet and postcard save the dates early August. I went to my aunts (Today) and saw it in her junk mail pile. She has RSVP’d but I can imagine that’s probably what others did as well.
We set our deadline for September 15, 2020, we did text and call people to remind them to RSVP and most actually have responded.