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Savvy April 2020

Unreasonable to ask the flower girl to wear our wedding colors?

on January 12, 2020 at 2:54 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 20
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So our flower girl (E) will be 4 at the time of the wedding, and she's the daughter of a groomsman (C) both I and future hubby consider a brother. I want E to wear a dress in one of our 4 wedding colors and for her dad C to pick the exact style. I thought this was reasonable considering I don't want to micromanage and because C doesn't have a ton of money right now. FH thinks it would be going too bridezilla to ask her to wear one of our wedding colors...am I being unreasonable?

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Latest activity by Mia, on January 18, 2020 at 5:30 PM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I don’t think that’s unreasonable at all. Will your colors be easy to find? What does your FH think you should do instead? Would it be possible for you two to cover the cost of her dress?
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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    I don't think that's unreasonable! There are a lot of options on Amazon and even at department stores. What are your colors? Are they difficult to find?
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  • Ingrid
    VIP October 2020
    Ingrid ·
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    Its not unreasonable at all. If it weren't wedding colors what would it be?
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  • M
    VIP October 2021
    Monica ·
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    Heck no that’s not unreasonable you are just simply asking the dad to buy a dress of a color. He can pick the style & price.
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  • S
    Devoted October 2020
    Stephanie ·
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    I don’t think that’s unreasonable at all, what else would she wear?
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  • M
    Devoted September 2019
    Meaghan ·
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    I think as long as it isn't too challenging to find the colors its fine. I think this is what is commonly done.
    When my daughter was a flower girl I was told I could get a blush dress to match the bridesmaids or ivory to match the bride. I had lots of options with those two colours and found something for under $30.
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    Definitely not unreasonable.

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  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    Totally OK and very common, I bet she'll love matching the grown-ups.
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Not at all. My mother-in-law made our flower girls' dresses, but I picked the pattern. It is very common. If you have the budget, could you pay for it? Amazon has really nice ones that aren't very expensive.
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  • S
    Savvy June 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I told our flower girl’s mom that she could choose the dress, but I’d like it to be blush. She wore a blush dress from kohl’s that was on sale for $15. She looked beautiful and elegant and it was very inexpensive.
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    Uh... what? No. Not unreasonable at all. I purchased my ring bearers and flower girls attire myself so that I knew they would be wearing exactly what I wanted. [That's not necessary.]
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  • Samantha
    Dedicated January 2022
    Samantha ·
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    That's not unreasonable at all. If she's your flower girl she should match the rest of your bridal party; especially in color.
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  • Savvy April 2020
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    Thanks folks. I'm glad it's not just me! The colors are super easy to find (I think)...sky blue, blush pink, lavender, or pine tree green. The wedding is in April so we can probably find something on an Easter sale. Should I offer to pay if it's her dad choosing the style, or just if I pick one specific dress? I don't want to come across as patronizing even though his budget is tight right now.
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  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    I think you aren't obligated to pay. If he asks, you can discuss it.
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  • Alyssa
    Super December 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    What WOULD she wear? A chicken suit?

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  • M
    Devoted September 2019
    Meaghan ·
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    Offering to pay is nice and I don't think it's patronizing at all. You don't need to, and those colours will be really easy to find, but especially if he is already paying for his outfit I think it would be appreciated. Ultimately, it's up to you.
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  • Savvy April 2020
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    Lol! That's actually a good argument to use with FH...
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  • Savvy April 2020
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    Thanks ladies. I'm glad it's not just me. I'll give C the colors and ask if he'd rather I pick out the dress (to save him time and headache) or if he'd like me to. Thank you so much!
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  • Rachael
    Savvy April 2021
    Rachael ·
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    Right?! My thoughts exactly tenor.gif

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  • Mia
    Dedicated July 2020
    Mia ·
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    Totally agree, not unreasonable at all...I like that chicken suit comment lol
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