Melissa
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Unpopular Opinion: Honeymoons

Melissa, on May 9, 2021 at 3:04 PM Posted in Honeymoon 0 37
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I'm probably gonna get crap for this. And to each their own. I think honeymoons are a giant waste of money. FH and I are on the same page here. We don't need to spend thousands of dollars to take a trip after throwing a party that already cost $20k. We can enjoy each other's presence and celebrate our wedding without spending even more money. This comes from several family members asking and saving you HAVE to have a honeymoon. If you want one cool. If you don't also cool. Respect people's choices.

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Latest activity by Melody, on June 11, 2021 at 9:58 PM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle Online ·
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    I agree with this. Whatever each couple decides is their own choice and should not be judged by anyone. Just please don’t ask your guests to pay for it because that is not their responsibility.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    Quite honestly, EVERYTHING surrounding a wedding is an unnecessary waste of money. It’s kinda like gambling and I always say... only spend the money on a wedding what you’re willing to lose. You can’t walk away the next day and feel regret. FH and I are hosting a wedding and a going on a honeymoon. But I 100% agree that it’s all a personal desire and nothing that’s mandatory. Also, we travel often throughout the year (just got back from FL). So the honeymoon is just another fun vacation (yet we happen to be married). Congrats!!
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I definitely think everyone should do what they want.


    For me and FH, our wedding night will be our first time sharing a bed and having sex, and our honeymoon will be our first time traveling alone together. We really wanted to go on a honeymoon just so we could have time to adjust to being together and get all the excitement out of out systems. Also, we are TTC when we marry, so we want a nice trip together just the 2 of us before we invite a little one into the family.
    I think a lot of couples probably feel the same way no matter what their circumstances--marriage is super exciting and alone time is good!
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    It definitely is all personal preference. Because I had a daughter going into our relationship, H and I had never been away for more than a night alone before our honeymoon. We chose to go away for 4 days as a treat to ourselves, but most of our friend circle thought that wasn’t enough because they all took 2+ weeks for their honeymoons and almost all of them went to Hawaii.
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  • AJ
    Rockstar October 2022
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    I agree but my FH and I don't really get to travel much so we will be taking full advantage of a vacation after the wedding, especially since we don't want to go back to work right away after. We will probably plan it like a normal vacation, no travel agents or honeymoon suites - will probably be staying in the US as well.

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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
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    This is our second marriage and we mostly live together now, and I’m looking forward to a fun trip, something just for us. If people don’t want to go on a honeymoon I don’t think it’s odd...but I don’t think travel is a waste of money, regular trip, honeymoon or whatever.
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  • Grace
    Rockstar February 2022
    Grace ·
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    I understand that completely. No one should judge you for not taking a honeymoon if you both agree you don't want one.


    My FH and I are still taking a honeymoon but we are treating it like a normal budget vacation with just a few extra splurges (mainly me making sure there is a hot tub where we are staying since it will be February). No crazy expensive trip to far off destinations or anything, just somewhere interesting within 6 hours driving distance. Then we will just spend a exploring the outdoors, going to museums or historic attractions, and just spending time together.
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  • Apryl
    Devoted March 2022
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    Well yeah. If it's not something you want to do it's a waste. A friend of mine just took the week off from work after her wedding.
    FH and I like to take vacations. We got engaged on vacation. The honeymoon will be an extra special vacation for us.

    To each their own.
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  • mrswinteriscoming
    Rockstar December 2021
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    We postponed our wedding because of COVID and haven’t had a proper holiday together since January 2019 so we are taking a honeymoon just so we can unwind and actually get away together! That and we will be marrying in mid December and going on our honeymoon a few days later, at which point my work closes for Christmas so may as well go on holiday right away.
    If either party don’t want to go on a honeymoon though that is totally fine! Lets be real, the whole reason this practice started was because couples would finally be able to go at it after marriage and needed a private venue to themselves 😂
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  • Danielle
    Dedicated October 2021
    Danielle ·
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    Everyone should be able to do what they want to do. For us, we haven't taken a trip together since our daughter was born (10 years ago) that lasted more than an overnight. We're going to enjoy ourselves in Jamaica for a week and I can't wait.
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  • C
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    Cassidy Online ·
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    I understand your thinking. We took a quick 3 day mini moon to Fl. Those were the best 3 days. I loved getting that relaxing time to spend with my brand new husband. While you don’t have to spend tons of money and go Into debt, I think spending that time together is important. No job or wedding planning stress just quality time and relaxation. Whether a staycation or a cabin in the mountains or a quiet hotel on a little beach somewhere.
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  • Molly
    Devoted August 2021
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    I respect your opinion on not wanting to spend money on a honeymoon.

    However, in my mind, any travel is never a waste. There is always something new to learn, explore and discover. We plan on doing our honeymoon a year later to the UK as we want to say money for the trip. We love to travel and just to relax and let go after all the wedding stress would make it all worthwhile. If we had the ability to pay for the trip after the wedding we would it just doesn't work right now.

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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
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    Was your intention on posting this here, to gain a like-minded crew? Or to help deal with the "fall out" you're receiving from friends/family who find it appropriate to tell you what to do with you free time?

    Look, a bunch of people want to honeymoon because its, quite literally, a getaway from life, from wedding planning, from work, etc. I'm sure you can image people wanting that. People enjoy vacations.

    Of course, it's absolutely, 100% okay for you NOT to take a honeymoon. Both are incredibly acceptable choices. Your family/friends trying to pressure you doesn't mean the concept, in general, is a giant waste of money. A lot of people don't feel as though travel is ever a waste of money.

    Totally okay for you to post and say, "we're not keen on a honeymoon. Others are pressuring us. Any advice?" But I think you're probably aware of the fact that posting an un-answerable, inflammatory post isn't entirely recommended. People are different. That's more than fine.

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  • Melissa
    Dedicated September 2021
    Melissa ·
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    I never said you shouldn't take a honeymoon. I never said anything about people who take honeymoons. Why is it okay that everyone else gets to rant and express their feelings on this website but you call me inflammatory for having an opinion just like everyone else. I'm not the only one on here ranting. I hope you're commenting on other people who want on here this way. Because this comment feels inflammatory.
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  • Melissa
    Dedicated September 2021
    Melissa ·
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    I'm not saying you shouldn't take a honeymoon everyone. So many people on this site rant about things. I personally take offense to people who have child free weddings. But I don't attack them. I respect your choices. Respect mine.
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
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    I don’t think people are taking *offense* at you saying you don’t want to take a honeymoon. I think it’s that you are saying honeymoons are a waste, esp on a website where *everyone* is basically wasting money on things that aren’t necessary. No one NEEDS a wedding - we as humans need food, shelter from the elements and water to live. Everything else just gives us the ability and resources to build a society and reap the benefits of community.
    It’s merely grating to read it and seems inflammatory. Like if I said “having bridesmaids is a waste of money.” Lots of people here aren’t having bridesmaids, but they are making a post about what a waste it is to have them.


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  • Melissa
    Dedicated September 2021
    Melissa ·
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    If you decided to read it that way, it's your choice. I stand by what I said. Live your life how you choose.
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
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    Are you ok? I’m asking in good faith. You seem bothered by this topic and perhaps looking for an argument? Did something about honeymoons cause an argument and upset you?
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  • Catherine
    Expert March 2023
    Catherine ·
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    I have a friend who is getting married this year who just wants to go home and spend time with her bee husband after she gets married. Nothing wrong with that. They’re getting married at the court house so not a huge expensive wedding, but I totally respect her choice. Everything with weddings is so expensive and seems a little unnecessary. I love traveling with my fiancé and it’s the only time for awhile we’ll have the time off and have a reason to go on a big trip so we’re going on a honeymoon- but nothing against those who don’t! Or those who take small honeymoons just to a hotel in their own town! Your wedding is valuable no matter how you do it.
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  • Catherine
    Expert March 2023
    Catherine ·
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    Oops. Her new husband. She’s not marrying a bee.
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